Secret Serial Sperm Donor Shows Just How Far Women Will Go to Have Babies

Stork holding babySperm banks aren't cheap. And that's given CUNY math professor Ari Nagel a cottage sperm donation market all to himself around the New York area, meeting women in bathrooms, and in bedrooms, to offer wannabe moms his sperm at a deep discount.

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Number 23 is on the way.

Now that his side gig has come to light, a source told the New York Post (where his procreation story was first published) that his wife of more than a decade is "devastated" and "had no idea this was happening."

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The couple has three children of their own -- a 12-year-old son and two young daughters, ages 2 and 5.

While it's not particularly shocking that Nagel's wife is furious (even though he apparently insists she knew all along), his newfound publicity has put him in even higher demand as a potential sperm donor. He says he's received inquiries from women numbering in the "triple digits" who want a sample of his swimmers from "all over the world, places I never heard of. Almost all of them want to have a baby, but some want to hook up," he told the Post.

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Now, if you're anything like me, this whole story, and Nagel in particular, turns your stomach a bit. A creepy dude lurking in Target bathrooms with cup-in-hand allegedly behind his wife's back is a pretty gross way to perhaps earn extra cash. But it does bring to light an important aspect about wanting to be a single mother in the modern world: Good sperm at a reasonable price is hard to find.

The Post articles didn't list how much Nagel charges for his samples, but the Sperm Bank of California advertises that their samples can be purchased for a $100 processing fee, plus $640 per 1cc unwashed vial. There are also fees for storage and other ancillary costs. For a couple of hundred extra bucks they'll even FedEx the baby batter right to your front door in a seven-day Liquid Nitrogen Vapor Tank. And keep in mind, that doesn't include any doctor's fees for artificial insemination. It's easy to see how the cost to have a baby without a daddy could quickly skyrocket to thousands of dollars.

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It all shows how desperate many single women and women in lesbian couples are to have babies of their own. In fact, the Centers for Disease Control estimate just over 40 percent of all US births are to unmarried women.

But going through a random dude online shows just how desperate women are for a more straight-forward solution. Nagel seems to be a decent donor: tall-ish at 6'2" and obviously pretty smart, since he's a CUNY math professor. But besides being just plain creepy, the arrangement appears to be anything but foolproof. What about health and diseases? I can't imagine women who are willing to meet up in a bathroom for sperm are bringing a doctor to give Nagel an exam. How do they know he's on the up and up?

As for Nagel, he's willing to just take the women's word for it. 

He's currently getting half of his paycheck garnished for child support after being sued by the first five ladies who had his babies.

"I don't know what's more surprising," he told the Post, "that five sued or 17 didn't. They all promise in advance they won't sue." 

Pretty sure a pinky swear isn't legally binding.

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But these women prove there's a pull for baby-making for so many of us that we'll go to all kinds of lengths to become mothers. It's obvious this antiquated view of motherhood involving a mom and a dad and a white picket fence is far too outdated and old-fashioned for today's world. Women -- single, lesbian, and otherwise -- should have access to safe, healthy sperm at a reasonable price.

But for now, Nagel seems to be enjoying his hobby.

"This isn't time-consuming, and I'm doing it anyway," Nagel said. "It's very easy for me to do."

 

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