Judge Allows Jilted Woman to Keep Engagement Ring Because of Ex's Awful Text Messages

engagement ringWhen people get engaged, it's this lovely display of love and happiness and a ring is given as a symbolic gesture that all the love and happy are forevermore tied up in that ring that is round and has no end. A dream ceremony is planned. Wedding bells start ringing. But sometimes that whole fantasy comes crashing down and a breakup happens. The engagement is off.

Louis J. Billittier Jr. and Christa M. Clark were engaged, and Christa has the 3-carat diamond ring to prove it. A ring that Louis paid $53,000 for. Yes, $53,000. But after an argument over a prenuptial agreement, Louis broke up with Christa over text. Yes, over text. I'm stuck on the fact how anyone could break up with someone over text, particularly your fiancee who you apparently loved so dearly, you were going to marry. But people do exactly that. Louis proved his cold heart was even colder by taking Christa to court to get the ring back.


In his text to Christa, Louis called the ring a "parting gift." How sweet of him. The Buffalo, New York, couple had been together for over a year and the breakup came as a shock to 38-year-old Christa who wrote back to Louis after his goodbye text, "Your [sic] doing this through a text message????"

Louis, 55, wrote back, "Plus you get a $50,000 parting ring. Enough for a down payment on a house."

Okay then. But then Louis changed his mind and wanted the diamond back. He texted his ex this, "Keep it up, and I will take back the ring as well" and "You by law have to give it back. You're nowhere near the person I thought you were. You don't deserve it."

I'm really glad these two broke up and never made it to the altar.

Louis sued Christa to get the ring back but a New York State Supreme Court judge ruled that because it was a gift, it belongs to Christa. The law is that the ring giver is entitled to take it back, but not when it's a gift. Which is all hard to prove, but since there were those text messages, he screwed himself. Louis tried saving face by saying, "I was being sarcastic, like a game show host -- you get a parting gift." Too late. Judge ruled.

I hope Christa does put the money she gets from the ring (if she sells it, which I think she should) to good use -- something uplifting and positive. Maybe toward a house ... Louis had a great idea when he suggested that. His bad idea was breaking up with her (or anyone) over text. Don't do that. Never do that. Breakups are hard enough as they are. Just because text messaging is the main way so many of us communicate, a breakup should be face to face. Always.

The cost of the ring is irrelevant. If it was a gift, it belongs to the one who got the gift, whether it was $100 or $100,000. Maybe some feel Christa should have just given it back, but the law sided with her keeping it. And so do I.

What do you think? Who deserves the ring? What do you think of Louis breaking up with Christa over text?


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