Competing Brothers: Life With 3 Teens

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It's hard enough raising one teen -- but three?! Welcome to RAZmom88's wild and wonderful life. Check back every Thursday to find out what drama or joy she encountered this week.

Best Buddies

It has been rather quiet around our house in terms of the childrens' behavior and activities, not the actual noise level in our home. This is the house that never sleeps, meaning someone is awake and up in our house at all times.

Ryan was home from college last weekend and it made me think of the relationship between brothers. Ryan, 18, and Zack, 15, spent every night -- all night -- playing video games, watching football, and going on late-night snack runs. The bond between the two of them has been there for as long as I can remember.


Zack got his first set of stitches at age 2 after being smacked in the head with a door by Ryan. They are best friends, they have always shared a bedroom but they are also very competitive. Ryan has decent grades, but Zack makes sure his grade point average is higher. Zack worked harder and played better at every sport Ryan played. Ryan is outgoing, Zack is not. Ryan is musically talented, Zack is not.

Swapping Girlfriends

Zack was a freshman during Ryan's senior year, so in order for him to be able to go to the prom with his brother, Ryan took Zack's girlfriend as his date and Britt (Ryan's girlfriend) took Zack. Ryan and a group of his friends went to Florida for spring break, and Zack went with them. They were almost inseparable. 

When Ryan left for college I thought it would be good for Zack to be on his own. He has adjusted very well. H needed to spend time with his sports and friends his own age and work toward his own goals. The boys still talk daily, either by text or on Facebook.

Big Party Weekend?

Zack has also learned a few things from Ryan. He does not want a "girlfriend" at this time, but a 3.5 grade point average to compete for more scholarships.

The boys have been asking for Zack to spend the weekend at Ryan's dorm. I am not comfortable with that. I don't believe Zack is ready for that, either. Ryan loves his brother, but I don't believe he is ready to be responsible for him. He would want to share college life with him in a way I do not approve.


Would you let your 15 year old son spend a weekend at the dorm with your 18 year old college freshman? Do you ever feel that your teens are too close?


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