Teens Trying to Get Pregnant


woman taking pregnancy testThis is a serious subject and nothing to laugh at, least of which by the moms of teen girls who are actually trying to get pregnant. All this goes to show in some of the honest gut reactions that moms gave in two recent posts on the subject. Obviously it's a very real issue that's on a lot of moms' minds lately.

Here's how some moms would react if they found out their teen daughters were trying to get pregnant on purpose:

"If I found out she was trying to get pregnant, I would send her to boot camp. And I am dead serious."

"Lock her in the basement until she is 42."

"I'd provide her with condoms, possibly birth control, and we'd be discussing the responsibilities of being a mother. Not to mention I'd find someone in the neighborhood with an infant or toddler and arrange my child to babysit in hopes of showing them that they are not ready to deal with that 24/7."

"I would get her psychological help."

"Well, I'd yell at her. And I'd be really disappointed. But then really what can ya do but help her raise it."

"Her a** would never leave the house, and if it did happen, she would raise that baby and still go to school and take care of her responsibilities."

One mom in the CafeMom Newcomer's Club commented that many teens try to have babies because of something missing in their life, be it attention from their parents or something to love that will love them back. This mom said six of her friends got pregnant at the ages of 13 to 15 for those very reasons. So sad.

Why do you think teen girls try to get pregnant on purpose, and what would you do if you found out your daughter was trying?

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Jesse... JessecaLynn

At first I would probably cry...cry because I would feel like a failure as a mother.  Then I would talk to her about how to respect herself more than this.  I would tell her how it was for my mom who was a teen parent, and tell her that I want more for her than that.  I would still talk to her about birth control and pray that she would change her mind.

toria... toriandgrace

I think a lot of people assume that pregnant teens tried to get pregnant when most did not. I attended a free daycare for single moms who were full time students and of the 40+ moms I met during my two years there (ranging in age from 13-25) only one had purposely gotten pregnant. Most just didn't think (like me).

Now if my little one tried to get pregnant (in 12 years of course) I would be having a long talk with her about why she wants to do this and if she understands what it entails and then I would be setting her up to talk with some of those 40 girls. I'd probably drag her butt over to the daycare too.

Geeky... Geekywitch

I'd be signing her up for the depo shot.

Ellie15 Ellie15

I recently had my 2nd & while in labour there was a high school student coming in the room with the nurse because she thought she wanted to be a future nurse. She saw me get the epidural & then she saw the actual delivery - my husband & I thought she was going to pass out at the sight of both the epidural & delivery. She has admitted that she's going to reconsider being a maternity nurse.

My point is that alot of teens just dont get enough information or just think the info they get are just scare tack-ticks so if teen girls were able to actually SEE the reality of it all - like the high school student in my delivery room, them maybe alot of girls would think twice. Of course I'm only guessing but my friend who got pregnant & had her baby at the age of 15 did say that she wished she knew more about the delivery & maybe she would have waited.


nonmember avatar Tom

My daughter is only 9 so I do worry about this happening just not tomorrow or the next day. A friend’s daughter was so in love with her boy friend that she desperately wanted to have his baby. Mom bought daughter a puppy, after about two weeks the daughter decided a baby was not for her, not yet anyway. Daughter no longer has that boy friend, mother took custody of the dog, but at least there is no grandchild yet or in the foreseeable future.

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