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In the book Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons, Dr. (and mom) Meg Meeker addresses how many parents are so afraid of their kids getting a scraped knee or an insect bite that they're not letting them be their naturally adventurous selves.
She writes, "Too many of us parents obsess about healthy diversions that active boys like to do, while not recognizing what is truly dangerous for our boys-like popular music, television, and video games that deaden their sensibilities, shut them off from real human interaction, impede the process of maturation, prevent them from burning up energy in useful outdoor exercise, divorce them from parents, and lower their expectations of life."
According to Dr. Meeker, the seven secrets to raising boys are:
- Know how to encourage your son. One fault is babying and spoiling him. But another is being so harsh that you lose communication and destroy his sense of self-worth.
- Understand what your boys need. It's not another computer game, it's you.
- Recognize that boys were made for the outdoors. A healthy boy needs that sense of adventure and the reality check that the outdoors gives him.
- Remember that boys need rules. If you don't set rules, they feel lost.
- Acknowledge that virtue is not just for girls. A healthy boy strives after virtues like integrity and self-control. In fact, it's virtues like these that make a boy's transition into manhood possible. And he needs your help in acquiring them.
- Learn how to teach your son about the big questions in life. Whatever your personal view may be, your son wants to know why he's here, what his purpose in life is, and why he is important.
- Always remember that the most important person in your son's life is you.
What do you think of the "seven secrets"? What's your secret to raising boys?