Vibrators for Teens?

on September 9, 2009 at 7:00 AM

vibrators for teens? Vibrators are becoming more common and less of a stigma among women. Studies show that women who use the little gadgets have healthier and happier sex lives. But what about teens/tweens?

Back in April, there was an episode on Oprah about talking to your daughters about sex and self-stimulation that made some very good points, saying that teenage girls should explore their bodies and take ownership of them.

But a conversation recently erupted on Yahoo! Shine about buying vibrators for teens when a mom's daughter mentioned that her friend's mother bought her daughter a vibrator and making the point, "Isn't masturbating safer than having sex?"

Now, I am all for teaching kids, thoroughly, about sex and putting self-stimulation in a positive light, but the thought of mother-daughter shopping for a vibrator makes me cringe.

Do you think it's appropriate for a teen/tween to have a vibrator? Would you ever buy a vibrator for your daughter?

Filed Under: sex & dating, tweens

Comments (35)

MadsMom04

on Sep 9, 2009 at 8:30 AM

I think it's very inapropriate and I would NOT buy one for my teen! PERIOD!

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aurorabunny

on Sep 9, 2009 at 8:31 AM

No. Noooo. Masturbating is awesome, I'm a big fan, but seriously...use your hand until you're 18 and then go buy your own, that is SO not something I would want to purchase for my child.

LokisMama

on Sep 9, 2009 at 8:50 AM

Sure, why not? Maybe I'm a little jaded because my husband worked in a porn shop for a while, and I used to hang out there at night when I couldn't sleep. But I'd prefer buying her a vibrator (or whatever else tickles her fancy) than having her sneak out and getting knocked up at 16 or whatever.

I don't see what the big deal is about vibrators.

jgal29

on Sep 9, 2009 at 9:39 AM

I don't think I could - Talking about masterbation and sex is one thing but I think that it is something you do on your own as a learning tool with yourself. If she asked me about it ok I'd talk to her about it but buying it is all her choice.

momof2boy2girl

on Sep 9, 2009 at 9:59 AM

Think of it this way: Would you want to use a sex toy that your mom bought you? *throws up in mouth a little* That would gross me out.

on Sep 9, 2009 at 10:42 AM

I have no problems with masterbation!! I just dont think buying your child a vibrator is appropriate. They can use their hand!

Freela

on Sep 9, 2009 at 10:45 AM

I have no problem with masturbation. And yes, I have a vibrator. However, I gotta say that, as a teen, had my mother bought me a vibrator I would have been traumatized for life! Not the gift I want to receive from my mom! If my girls want to buy their own vibrators when they're teens, that's fine by me. However, there is no amount of therapy I could possibly afford that would remove the trauma of having mom buy them their first sex toy!

milmiracle

on Sep 9, 2009 at 12:00 PM

I would share my knowledge w/ my daughter and yea maybe for her 15 or 16th bday buy her one. It's either that or she goes and learn w/ someone else. I rather be that friend at that time, even if later she dumps me for someone else.

bella69147

on Sep 9, 2009 at 3:02 PM

No I don't think so.My hubby would not allow that in our house. Neither would I. Not that it is a bad thing. I am so pro for all this , but thank goodness we have a son. Maybe Jenna would market it. She probably already has. Maybe her rival Tera Patrick will too...

IGotThis2

on Sep 9, 2009 at 10:05 PM

Hmmm... my daughter isn't even 5 yet, but I have tried to prepare myself for discussing sexuality with her one day. I believe that it's important to have an open relationship with my children, to create an atmosphere in which they feel at ease talking to me about anything. I would certainly consider this as an option, but definitely not ready to commit to getting her one for a 15th or 16th birthday. I don't really know right now, but interested to see what others have to say on the subject.