Parenting Styles: Which Type of Parent Are You?

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what is your parenting styleDoesn't it seem like the media is always trying to come up with a new label to define us as parents? A recent piece in the New York Times discusses a new trend called "slow parenting"—which is the opposite of over-parenting and over-scheduling your children.

In other words, instead of constantly rushing your kids around to soccer practice, guitar lessons, etc., and obsessing about their safety and needs, the focus of slow parenting is on backing off and lightening up. This type of parenting style is supposedly a rebellion against "child-centering parenting" or "alpha parenting" in which parents micromanage their kids.

Parents are used to sacrificing their own needs for the benefit of their children; now, the new philosophy is that parents should pay more attention to their own needs (in addition to the needs of their kids). This way, everyone—both kids and parents— will be happier and better adjusted in the end.

What do you think of "slow parenting"? Is it selfish or does it make sense?

 

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nonmember avatar Jim

I hate how we have to label it. I never bothered planning what kind of parent I'm going to be. I never sat down and thought "Yeah, I'm going to be a slow parent", lets do things the slow parent way.

I take it day by day, provide for my children, teach them values and morals, and play with them at our own pace.

If my children want to play soccer and their practice schedules overlap then there will be running around. If it becomes too much then we'll fix it. I'm not going to plan my life around some sort of pre-determined parenting plan.

Momof... Momof3cuties

I would have to say that I "slow parent" in that I am learning that in order to maintain order and happiness in our home, we cannot allow our lives to completely revolve around our children but must allow for us to have adult time.  I also believe it's important not to make your complete focus your children b/c one day they will be grown and gone...then what???  Will your marriage survive?   What would you do with yourself?  DH & I go out on dates, we do things with our friends,  with and without the kids.  I don't want my kids to think that the world revolves around them.....that would make for some nightmarish adults!!!  How do I know?  Well, my in-laws were raised that way...all of them are now divorced...the big problem is that they all think that they are the center of everything and can't stand it if they feel that they aren't!  I think I married the only one in the family who isn't like that &  I think it's bc he's the 4th son and the next child was a daughter.  I don't claim to be a perfect parent but I do feel it's very important not to overschedule and revolve your world around your kids.  I did both...my marriage and my health..mental and physical suffered as a result!

Eliza... Elizabeth4980

I think free-range parenting (which I prefer to slow parenting) would be selfish if it were harmful to kids, but it is actually quite beneficial to children, much more so than the accursed "helicopter parenting".  So since free-range parenting is great for kids development, I think there is no way you could call it selfish, you are just trying to be the best parent you can be.

Lois. Lois.

I don't know how to explain my parenting.


I like to call it "what works for us" .


Its a mix and match of everyone's classified styles until we find what works perfectly for my children as individuals. 


For instnace my oldest son, 6, will walk all over you if you parent using conversation and guidance.  he actually needs a firm hand to guide him, and strong punishment to teach him.


My middle son, 2, needs gentle loving guidance.  he is the kind of child that a firm hand would absolutely shatter him emotionally, so instead when he needs punishment or whatever getting down on his level and just talking firmly but kindly works.  no need for time out with that one...

nonmember avatar k

It's not a new label its renaming old labels,has no-one heard of tom hodgkinson's 'the idle parent'?

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