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Hey Parents, Lighten Up, Will You?

by Sheri Reed on June 3, 2009 at 10:00 AM

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I admit, when it comes to day-to-day parenting, I could stand to lighten up a little. Okay, a lot.

One hectic evening, not even that long ago, I started laughing really hard with my kids and husband, and it felt, well, kinda foreign.

I'm not proud to say I don't let go with joyfulness very often, but it's true. Between work and the daily grind and school drop offs and pick ups and baseball practice and making meals and taking care of a house and a marriage, I get a little too tightly wound.

I forget what's really important. Loving. Laughing. Basic happiness. Quite frankly, I can be a stress case.

That's why I love these "Ten Tips for Being a More Light-Hearted Parent" from The Happiness Project, found via ohdeedoh. I think I'm going to work on singing in the morning (sorry, family!), cutting back on treats and impulse buys (you're welcome, bank account), and saying "no!" only when it really matters.

What about you, moms? Could you stand to lighten up when it comes to daily parenting?

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  • Phill...


    June 4, 2009 at 5:31 AM

    Absolutely!  I don't think I was too overbearing when they were young, but I definitely lightened up as they became tweens.   Mom's who b**ch about driving kids around are kid of my pet peeve - you have to do it, so might as well make it a pleasant time, and make your kids feel like you are happy to do it for them, happy to support them in their activies, happy to be with a car full of their friends.    I use the time to remind them of rules, ask how their going, ask about their friends, listen to their music, and sometimes we just have a laugh about their horoscope's that day.

    I do try to say yes as often as I can - alot of teen plans fall through depending on other parents and their schedules, so I often give a tenative yes, and wait to see what kind of firm arrangements are proposed - half the time, things don't happen (invitations, events, etc.) and in the meantime, my kids appreciated my openness to the idea.   Thanks to that approach, their biggest fear is being grounded and that keeps them on track with our few significant rules.

  • MomIWant


    June 4, 2009 at 12:21 PM

    I'm am not a heavy handed parent but I definitely could laugh more.  I am going to try  singing in the morning - I would love to be in a good mood on my way to work - hopefully their ears won't bleed and the dogs won't howl too loudly! LOL

  • Gretc...
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    Gretchen Rubin

    June 5, 2009 at 1:58 PM
    HI! I saw the nice mention of my blog, The Happiness Project, here. I very much appreciate those kind words and you shining a spotlight on my blog. Thanks and best wishes, Gretchen Rubin
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