What Message Is Twilight Sending Young Girls?

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TwilightI recently finished the first book in the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer (yeah, I'm late, I know), and also watched the movie. I swore I wouldn't get wrapped up in its lusty teenage angst, but I did—me and several of my 30-something mom friends. And many of their tween and teen daughters are getting wrapped up too.

The other day a mom friend told me she wasn't going to let her almost-9-year old daughter read the Twilight series just yet because, "I don't want the first romantic book she reads to be about a girl who chooses to give her life for a boy." Others argue that the Bella Swan is a strong, feminist character taking charge of her own future and decisions.

What kind of message do you think the Twilight tales are sending young girls? Does it concern you or provide you a teachable moment?

Rachel Allen over on the California NOW blog says: "My daughter's response to my criticism is, 'It's fantasy, mom!' But, the thing is, the romance is not really the fantasy part. The romance is presented as the realistic part. And realistically, it's not the lesson in love I want my daughter walking around with."

What do those of you with young daughters think about this message? Will you let your daughter's read the Twilight series? At what age? Thoughts?

 

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TheFr... TheFringe

I read the entire series as each book came out over the years. I don't think any tween should even be reading the books. I loved the series, don't get me wrong, but I don't think it should be read before you're 16 at least. They are thick books with very grown up subjects. Young girls just aren't or shouldn't be familiar with the feelings these books elicit.

jms124 jms124

I think 9 year olds are too young to read this book.  It's a YOUNG ADULT book, meaning it meant for 15/16 year olds and older.


And, it's fiction.  There is nothing real about it.  Whatever happened to us as parents being the role models for our children?  I don't think this books sends any message, too many people read too much into everything.  It's just a book, but it's a book meant for older kids.


As to the questions...yes, I will let my children read this book, when the reach the age of 15/16.


 

reelo reelo

I liked the books but there is no way I would let a pre-teen or even young teen read it. There are some very unhealthy relationship models-- in real life someone like Edward would be considered a stalker. Their complete obsession with each other is really not healthy, and the list goes on. Its funny, of all the characters in the story Bella would be the last I would consider a strong female role model.

delil... delilahsmom1177

IT is a book about friggen vampires it is not real and most if not all young girls know that. As for the person who said 9 is too young well I watched and read Interveiw with a vampire when I was 10/11ish and all that happened was I am now obsessed with vampires and would love for them to be real. Although I kow they aren't. I think anyone who gets upset about things like this is that type of setting is an idiot!

FIVEH... FIVEHAPPYHEARTS

WELL I THINK IF YOU ARE FOURTEEN AND ARE MUCH OLDER PERSANALITY WISE I WOULD LET THEM READ IT WELL THE FIRST BOOK I DONT KNOW ABOUT THE REST I WOULD HAVE TO SEE HOW THEY RESPOND TO IT THEN I WOULD READ THE NEXT ONE TOGETHER WITH THEM

guita... guitarlove

Considering the scene where they have sex after establishing that it can KILL her.... NO. Nonononono. I don't want any little girl of mine thinking that date rape is the ultimate in romantic sacrifice.

lovin... lovinallofthem

whoa, first im frightened by the mom who said she "wished vampires were real".. i havent read the books.. vampires arent my thing, but i watched the movie with my mom because she IS way into the vampire movie thing *and no, she does NOT wish they were real*  but that there is a metaphor that they represent.  and no, my 9 yr old would NOT be reading or watching these...

Amand... Amanda_Jeanne

I read the books and enjoyed them, but I wouldn't allow my child to read them until they were at least 14 years (or older) or maybe if they showed a certain level of maturity and understanding that it is fictional fantasy, there aren't any dreamy Edward Cullens walking around in real life unfortunately!

flirt... flirtatiouswife

I think 9 is to young to read Twilight. While I loved the books, I can't see my 9 year old daughter reading Twilight. The subject matter is to mature for her.  I push other chapter books her way, like June B books.  She loves those. 

RanaA... RanaAurora

Oh boo hoo.  Seriously?  If your children can't separate fantasty from reality, they're in for a hard life.  I read Interview with the Vampire at 11.
If you introduce your child to enough VARIETIES of books, you don't have to worry about them obsessing over one single storyline.
And if they seem to obsess and be unable to separate reality from fantasty, maybe you need to work with them, or let them stop reading FICTION.


God, no wonder kids don't read as much anymore.  People feel the need to psychoanalyze and blame every single book for this and that.  Just let kids READ, people.

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