School Bans Kid from Taking Girlfriend to Prom




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Imagine this. You pay for your smart, responsible 17-year-old son to attend a small, private religious high school for four years. His girlfriend is also a high school senior, but at a local public school. Her prom is coming, and of course your son plans to be her date.

Sounds normal enough except that your son's school is vehemently against rock music and dance. If he takes his girl to the prom, he will be suspended from classes and receive an "incomplete" on remaining assignments. He also would not be permitted to attend graduation but would get a diploma once he completes final exams.

I wish this were one of the fictitious scenarios I've posted in the past. But it's not. This is a real story happening in Findlay, Ohio to a young man named Tyler Frost. The Heritage Christian School's handbook says rock music "is part of the counterculture which seeks to implant seeds of rebellion in young people's hearts and minds."


How would you handle this if this were your son?

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Peajewel Peajewel

Hey that is close to me and it was on the news the other day.  He did go with her and the school is now saying that he cannot graduate.  His step dad said he was going to try to do something  about it.  Although, the parents did all sign a form saying that they understood all the rules and they would follow them and that rule was on there.  I don't agree to it and would have argued that before signing. 

Natha... NathansmomEmmie

well, the kid and his parents did sign a paper at the beginning of the school year saying that he understood the rules-one being not going to the public school prom.  He knew the rules and broke them so he should be punished.  If he had a problem with it, he should have had the problem before he signed the form. 

Moniq... Moniquemarie1

I don't think I would agree for my child to attend such a limited, judgemental, controlling school.  There are other schools where he can get a great education if that was the motivation. 

proud... proud2Bmomma

That's just it.  They knew the rules, agreed to them, and are now mad the rules are being enforced.  DUH!!!  Talk about teaching your children to be rebellious and we wonder why there is no personal accountability.  If you don't agree with the rules, don't sign the agreement and don't attend that school.  Nobody put a gun to their heads, forced them to sign the paper and then physically carried the kid to school every day against his and the parent's will.  This story is so ridiculous and being so completely out of proportion its disgusted.  Nobody will stick to their word anymore and nobody wants there to be an consequences for their behavior.  GO TO ANOTHER SCHOOL DUMMY!!

Cafe... Cafe Kierna

proud, I can understand being critical but can't understand name calling.

pjaca... pjacademy

I agree with KNEW the rules ahead of time it should NOT be a suprised when this happened.

I home school so we can have our own rules :)

Kaytl... Kaytlynsmommy

I don't understand why a CHRISTIAN school would be so...what's the word I'm looking for.... Hypocritical?? I'm a christian and I wouldn't let my children attend that school if those were on the rules. That's ridiculous! My husband listens to Christian Rock and Rap ALL the time. That's mostly all he listens to! It's not bad! God created ALL music. People are what makes music bad. Not the instruments. But still, they shouldn't be doing this to's really stupid... Shame on christians for this one...

mirak... mirakoboy

Ok so this kid disobeyed the rules....or was it his parents who disobeyed the rules? They allowed their son to go to the prom with this girl so who should be reprimanded? I think not being able to graduate is a little bit of excessive punishment...The parents knew the rules and who knows if the kid did...So the kid is punished...This is wrong...The parents have the kid in a private school it was probably their choice and not the sons...Make the parents pay a fine and allow the kid to graduate!  God Bless him for trying to graduate in this world ! These days kids just drop out and do not care if they graduate or not....I see why after this....This is ridiculous on the parents behalf........The kid is the one who suffers.....God Bless that boy!

auror... aurorabunny the kid names but REALLY how good were you all at "seeing on down the road" (as I like to call it ) at age 17?!  I doubt he took that one rule into heavy consideration or thought that it would affect him.  His parents pay for him to go there and I think what he does in his free time and off of school grounds shouldn't be any of their business.

proud... proud2Bmomma

Cafe Kierna - I'm sorry if it was personally offensive to you that I called the Dad a dummy.  If you would like I'll say "Go TO ANOTHER SCHOOL IF YOU ARE GOING TO BEHAVE LIKE A DUMMY".  There you go.  And I didn't say YOU were a dummy even if I strongly disagree with your point of view.  One should not agree to a set of guidelines if one is not willing to actually follow them.  Its flat out lying and being deceptive.  And its the parents causing the big uproar about this.  A 17 year old trying to break rules?  Understandable.  But the behavior of the parents is shameful and ridiculous.

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