Boys and Puberty. Get Ready.

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You want to WHAT?! No son, noooooooo!!! This is exactly how CM Mom 3gifts.from.god poses her desperate question about what to do about her 10-year-old son's sudden interest in kissing his "girlfriend." Now although I've put girlfriend in quotes, you can believe that to this kid, the girlfriend thing is very real. It sounds to me that puberty has struck the poor guy (and mom!), and yes, everything is different now.

According to, the normal rage for the onset of puberty in boys in the United States is between 9-14: The first physical change that is noted in a boy is the enlargement of the testes and the lengthening of the penis. In the second stage of pubertal development, the skin over the scrotum begins to thin and redden and there is the beginning of a sparse amount of pubic hair at the base of the penis. Because most parents are no longer seeing their children fully undressed in early adolescence, these very early changes in boys may not be noticeable to the parent.

You've got that right. Before a mom notices these kinds changes in her boy, she's more likely to be confronted with something like what 3gifts is facing--an interest in girls, or a pretend lack of interest in girls (which, of course, means he's interested in girls). He's growing, he's sleepy, his sweat stinks! Is his voice cracking? All of this is perfectly normal. And really, in terms of freaking out, robinann5 put it simply and best. "I think the important thing here is that he came to his mother to talk about it. Don't discourage his openness."

Talking about his feelings is the best approach to getting trough puberty. There's nothing wrong with reiterating the family rules and expectations, but hearing him out is key. If you still feel intimidated about the stage your son is entering, try reading this book together, What's Happening to My Body? Book For Boys: A Growing Up Guide for Parents and Sons and have him check out this kid friendly site that addresses many of the changes pubescent boys face. Don't worry yourself crazy, moms of pubescent boys, this too shall pass. (But before then, tell us what going through puberty with your son is/was like!)

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