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Today is the day I--hesitantly--sign my 5 1/2-year-old up for summer football. He and his dad are all excited about it; I am struggling with fear about him getting hurt (and also have to listen to my mom mumbling about what a bad idea this is). But I digress. This post is really about practice--and whether or not to stay.
See, once football starts, practices are every evening Tuesday -Thursday and then 9am -1pm on Saturdays. That's a lot of time! As it is, he's in Tae Kwon Do on Fridays and Sundays;. the classes are an hour long and I sit through each one of them (sigh).
With Tae Kwon Do at first I stayed because, well, it was the right thing to do. I didn't want not to be there if my baby needed me mid-class to, say, quickly wipe his runny nose. Also, like every mom, I try to put the idea of "bad" teachers/coaches out of my mind, but we all know there are sickos out here who take advantage of children. (This was a major reason to stay at practice.) But now, many months in, my kid is a pro, he forgets I'm there during that hour, and sensei? He's a wonderful person that I trust with my child completely. Yet class after class, I'm still there, still not getting my nails done or anything else during that precious time.
I don't think I can do this for football though. His dad will be at Saturday practices but for the weekday ones, am I really supposed to sit there with my other child for two hours a night?
How do you sports moms do it? Do you stay at practice? What about when more than one child has an activity? How old is old enough to leave them? Talk to me!
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Comments (19)
I have never left my children, Maybe when they are in jr. high or something other wise it is hubby or me out there cheering them on. Once my other daughter gets up to doing things then he gets one then I do. Or use a buddy system with a friend and you and the other parent take turns.
Yes you are. That is what parents do. He is only 5 and there is NO WAY you should leave him on a football field without either you or your husband.
1) Football is a major contact sport and injuries will happen. You need to be there
2) Parctice could end early and then the coach or another parent is left babysitting your son because you ran to the store or to get a mani/pedi.
3) by leaving you are telling your son that you have no interest in him or how well/poorly he is doing
You say that you didn't want to sign him up because you are worried that he will get hurt but yet you are asking if it is okay to just leave him there. I think you are trying to use sports as a babysitter..and guess what
THAT IS NOT OKAY
You need to be there....5 is just to youg to be left, in this day and age to many things can and do happen....So bite the bullit mom and stay with your son
My daugter just turned 7 and she is playing soccer for the first time this year.I would never leave her alone for many reasons.
1.What if she got hurt?? It happens all the time
2.It's unfortunate but you really can not trust anyone these days. Sad but true
3.I also think showing interest in your childs activities shows them you care.Even if you don't want to be there sometimes put a smile on your face for your child!!
Yeah , I would be worried too. 5 1/2 is to young to be playing football. It does nothing to promote better play at the older levels. We never let ours play till Jr high and they did just fine making that and the high school team and playing well. Football is a dangerous sport especially when it comes to breaking bones and getting cuncussions. (yes even with the helmets) (Football is mainly a make daddy feel good sport) As for staying with the kids during practice, we did, one of us was always there at least till Jr high school sports. Longer with my daughter bacause she played competitively outside of school.
I have always stayed at my daughter's soccer practices (she's 7). She seems to forget I'm there, but I like to see what she's doing and be there if she were to get hurt. I've known her coach for a while now, so I trust her. It's people I don't know that I don't trust and the way the world is today, you never know when something could happen. I also think it's good for the child to stay at practice. It shows them you are involved and interested in what they do (even if they seem to ignore you).
My daughter is also taking swim lessons right now. Parents are only allowed to watch at certain lessons and it drives me nuts that I can't watch her. She's not that great in the water and I worry, but I have to trust the instructors. I also stay close by so if , god forbid, anything were to happen, I am right there and easy to find.
Well, I guess you guys told me! itsmesteph, I'm going to put up a poll question inspired by your comment. Keep checking. (Maureen, a little rough, huh?) Maybe I'll rethink football all together.
My son is ten, now, and I will leave him alone at gymnastics practice (it's at the church, so, I'm still in the building). As far as football, baseball, or soccer, though, I stay with him for a few reasons.
1) It's outside, in a public area. No one is going to have the chance to grab my son.
2) Practice could end early, and I need to be there if that happens.
3) He could get hurt.
When he was five, there was NO practice I would have left him alone for, sans piano lessons.
I've got 2 (5 and 7), both in TaeKwonDo, at different times. Granted, his class is immediately following hers, but I'm there for 2 hours, IF practice doesn't run over. I don't leave unless my husband is there. They can, and have, gotten hurt. I like to be there, so I can watch them do the forms and I'll know if they're doing it right when they practice at home.
If you're not willing to put in the time with them and the sport, then don't get them started on it. It's as much, if not more, a commitment from the parents as from the kids. If you're not ready for the commitment, then you need to rethink.
When kids are little a parent should always be at practice or events, as they age, 10 or so, then it becomes staying in close proximity. I ended up being so involved with the organizations my kids played sports with, that I was always there. But I had my own things to do, not just stand around and watch. I did team mom, board member, fundraising, and so many other opportunities for parents. Staying also gives you the opportunity to get to know the other families and expand you and your child's circle.