Alright, I didn't want to put this in the headline, but yesterday's Oprah was about more than simply talking to daughters about sex.
Dr. Laura Berman, Oprah's resident sex therapist (and a very smart cookie if you ask me) actually suggested that along with age appropriate sex education--which includes very specific anatomic details--that mothers should also consider talking to their teen daughters about self stimulation (better known as masturbation).
Gasp! Yeah, I know--that's what the audience yesterday did too.
But wait. There's a logic to what she says. Let me paraphrase. Berman suggests that when teenage girls have "ownership" of their own bodies and they are given the emotional freedom (read: guilt free permission) to actually explore their own bodies, they will be more likely to put off seeking sexual gratification from a boy for far longer. She says that experiencing pleasure for themselves should not be a taboo subject for teen girls--especially in light of the fact that so many of them are already performing oral sex on boys (something she does not condone). She even suggested vibrators for teen girls.
Are you still there?
Did you see the show? What do you think about the idea of letting teen girls know that masturbation is natural, healthy and safer than sex?