Girl Fight: Sisters Who Can't Get Along




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Such sister love!

Do you have daughters who constantly bicker and fight? For a good stretch of my childhood, that was me and my sis. She is six years younger than me, so we were never doing quite the same thing, but somehow I felt bothered by her attention. If lil' sis was around, then my phone conversations had to be censored, my candy had to be hidden, my favorite hair clips had to be tucked away. Sure, I had begged for a baby sis, but when it came to really being a big sister I turned into Evilina.

Guinhyvar is a mom of three daughters who do their fair share of fighting, she writes in her journal. When I read it, I had a major flashback.

Now get back on to YOUR side of the room! Because this is MY side! And that is MY thing that you’re holding/playing with/looking at and give it back! Right now! Well, I maybe gave it to you but not to KEEP! And now I want it back because I know that you’re going to freak out and throw it at me and then I can go and whine tattle tell Mom about how you stole it from me, ripped it right from my hands and then threw it at me when I calmly asserted myself and told you to return the item!

And you're still on MY side of the room!

And the other one in this equation invariable breaks down into pitiful tears and cries out how miserably her sister treats her and all she wants to do is GET ALONG and how MEAN she is FOR NO REASON. All the time. Everyday. And how UNFAIR it all is, that she is straddled with such a mean sister who HATES her and all she ever wants to do is be friends and share and just… get along. Why can’t we get along, why are you so unjust, why must you treat me so terribly? I’m telling MOO-OOOOOM!

Oh yes, at the end of these kinds of battles, Major Mom always has to come settle the score. I get a headache just thinking about refereeing girl fights. Oy, think I owe my mother a big apology!

Do your daughters fight a lot?



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3rdty... 3rdtymsthecharm

hey are you in my house.  This is my 3 and 4 year old girls.  they are just evil to eachother.  I hope this is just a stage because i feel like pulling my hair out

MAyers MAyers

my DDs dont fight yet but they are only 1 and 2. my big sister and I was 6 years apart, we never got along, and since my big sister passed away my lil' sister is trying to talk to me more but I don't get along w/ her since her and my big sister would always not include me and hurt me. i hope my kids get along or at least pretend around me.

RanaA... RanaAurora

My sister and I actually got along pretty well until we were older teenagers, and then we really just stopped talking for the most part.  Now she's one of my best friends.

I'm only having ONE daughter, and have my 5 year old son, so hopefully we can avoid fights like this. ;)

Patty... Pattyeb12

I don't want to sound like I am preaching, but my sister and I were 13 months apart and we lost her when she was 11 years old and I was twelve, and I remember having those fights with her and thinking why can't she go find something to do with HER friends instead of tagging behind me?  Now I wish I could have one of those arguements with her.  I truly miss her and maybe your daughters will turn out the same way, hopefully it is just a phase.

3gift... 3gifts.from.god

My girls are constantly at eachother, but I really don't worry about it. I grew up with 3 older sisters, and although we fought all the time it is part of the secrets of sisterhood. We always saw it like this: It is okay for sisters to be mean to another sister, but no one else. I always knew if someone was bothering me my sisters would be there to back me up, my girls are the same way. They can be as mean as they want to eachother, but they wouldn't let anyone mess with the other one. It's just the way sisters are. The true test of sisterly love is when someone at school messes with one of the sisters.


well look at my house its a nut house my 16 year old fights with my 14 year old  my ten year old fights with  both and my son fight with all of them man my house is a nut house

punkr... punkrockermama

Sorry to tell ya all but that was me and my sister and we are now 23 and 21 and still fight like we're born mortal enemies. We just cannot seem to get along...ever. We even fought at my wedding.

jax1114 jax1114

My dd14, and dd11 are always fighting; then throw into the equation the bitter middle child ds13.  Both ds13 and dd11 feel a need to knock dd14 off her high horse.  Sometimes it quite hiarious.

Mina2904 Mina2904

I don't have two girls. (My ds is 4 years old and dd is 5 months so we haven't hit that stage yet LOL) But when my sister and I were growing up, OMG...

We used to get into fights all the time! I think the worst one was when I dragged my sister kicking and screaming down the hallway by her hair and shoved her head under the couch cushions. My mother was outside with my brothers (they were 2) and when she heard all the commotion, she came in the house just in time to see me sitting on the couch cushion my sister's head was under while I was watching TV. My butt was sooooo blistered by the time she was done with me! LMAO

But, my sister and I are very close now. We've been through thick and thin with each other and have helped each other out a lot. Of course, my sister is the more "butch" of the two of us. She'll jump in someone's face faster than anything. Of course, she attributes it to my kicking her rear when we were little. LMAO I dunno about that though!

hello... hellokittyhsb02

My older sister was never around ,(she was 5 yrs older) but my younger sister(2 yrs younger) never wanted to be around me. It was always her & her friends. A few yrs ago we reconnected and we got close,then all of a sudden she stoped talking to me.  My 3 girls seem to be the same way. It`s like 2 of them are friends then they don`t talk and the other,  one talks to one and the other one isn`t talking to them. I wish they could all be close to each other. It would be nice to have all 3 in my house for dinner at one time.  

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