Giving Condoms to a 14-Year-Old Daughter

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condoms, birth controlBack in January, I stumbled across (and wrote about) a mom's story about hearing from her hubby that her 14-year-old son wanted condoms.

Today I read in the NYT blog Motherlode, the "sister" story, if you will. This time, the issue is about giving condoms to a 14-year-old girl.

In the piece blogger Lisa Belkin cites some important info: Teenage birth rates are climbing. They had been decreasing steadily from 1991 to 2005 (down by 45 percent during those years) but began to inch back up again since then — rising another percent in 2007, for an increase of 4 percent between 2005 and 2007, according to the National Center for Health Statistics, which released those numbers last week.

But her story is really about a mother's dilemma. Understanding the stakes involved, many parents of teenagers entertain the idea of providing their kids with condoms, but simply can't find the strength/nerves/guts to do it. Here's why. We want our kids to be protected, but we want them more NOT TO HAVE SEX. Moms on the fence about offering condoms wrestle with the internal question: If I give my child condoms, aren't I implicitly supporting the idea of her/him having sex?

How would you answer that?

behavior, sex & dating, teens