Bed wetting for a big kid can be really humiliating and can negatively affect a child's self esteem. Moms, too, often have a hard time not feeling some shame about having a bed wetting child--and that's why I want to give thanks to psydney42 for being open enough to admit that her son needs help.
Psydney's son is almost 10, but still has a serious bed wetting (enuresis) problem. According to about.com, he's not alone--about 3% of all 14 year olds wet the bed at night. It is much more common in boys, but does happen with girls also.
The article says bed wetting can be divided into two main types:
Experts make a point of saying that if you have a tween struggling with bed wetting, don't make a big deal out of it. Don' t talk about it to other family members or to anyone else (your child is already embarrassed)--and never punish a kid for bed wetting.
Of course, see a pediatrician to be certain that your child doesn't
have any physical concerns creating the bed wetting problem. But the
problem often goes away on its own.
BTW: A few mothers on CM say that bedwetting alarms are a good remedy!
Do you have a bed wetter? Is he still wetting the bed or has it stopped? What did you do?