6-Year-Old Saw Explicit Sex Scene on TV: What Should Mom Do?

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It's best if LadyEb explains this one to you in her own words: My daughter saw an explicit sex scene on TV. We have TiVo and when I walked in the room, she was rewinding it. I don't know how long she had watched or what, but I flipped out completely and started screaming and running for the remote. Needless to say, she was too scared to answer my questions at the time. Now it's been a few hours and I feel the need to say something to her about it. What do I do? I feel like her innocence has been lost.

Whoa. Well, LadyEb, can't blame you for your reaction--you were shocked and horrified! But like a few moms commented to your post, your reaction just may have fueled the fire. Hindsight is 20/20 though, so IMHO, I think you should take the combined advice of two other mothers here.

First, as Wimsey says, apologize for freaking her out. No big deal, just something like, "Mommy's really sorry she startled you." Then, as CarolynBarnett, suggests, "Take this opportunity to explain to her that this is what people do when they are married and in love, and that if anyone touches her like that she should let you know right away (or let another trusting adult know)." And the most important thing, I think, as Carolyn also said, ask how she felt about what she saw and try to answer all of her questions without the drama, just age-appropriate responses.

If I were you I wouldn't beat myself up about her lost innocence. Being 6, if you don't, she may not focus on the incident any more anyway. Just be careful to monitor the TiVo! As if you don't already know that!

Any advice (non-judgemental, please) for this horrified mom?

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