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There aren't many situations that make me grateful that I don't have girls (I wanted girls my whole life!), but this might just be one of them. Auntmeme611 wants to know, should a 12-year-old be allowed to get body piercings? The top of her ears, her nose, belly button and tongue to be precise.
This isn't such a strange desire coming from a tween, soon-to-be-teen. Piercings and tattoos are personal statements, and you tell me if there is a time in a girl's life when she is more pressed to make a personal statement than at 12. The thing is, some stuff is irreversible, some stuff sends out the wrong message, some stuff is suggestive--you know, sexual--in a way a 12-year-old might not mean. To me body piercings fall into that category.
But what do other CafeMoms think?
"In my opinion, some of those piercings should wait a couple more years at least, but I am not her mom or dad. If it was my child I would compromise with the top of the ears but ask her to wait until she is 15 or 16 for any others, and at that we will discuss what she wants and where," says JAJA_Steele.
"I had the top of my ear pierced at 11 or 12, my bellybutton at 15, and I'm still waiting for my nose. What really matters is what her parents think," says SThompson21.
"Top of the ears, I would say okay, but NO WAY on the nose and tongue and belly button. Nose at 15, but belly button and tongue not until shes 18 and can pay for it herself!" says aliciatron.
And just when I was about to say you girls are way more open-minded than me...
"Not my daughter," says TXdanielly.
Happy to know I'm not the only stick-in-the-mud--and I don't even have a daughter! So what do you think? Should a 12-year-old be allowed to get body piercings?
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Comments (84)
well we let our eighth grader get a nose piercing after she carried a 3.9 GPA the entire year. Better to do it with the parents blessing and knowledge than have your friend do it behind their back and it get infected. JMO
my daughter is 13,and I personally didn't let her even get the extra earrings lol.(she has one hole each on each side):)
She isn't asking for her tongue,navel or nothing ...yet.:)
Tongue,imo,is just not that attractive,Trashy sorta in my opinion.For what to gain to put a hole in the tongue??
I hear it closes back,if so....than thats good lol
Nope not happening. My daughter will not have more than the normal one hole in each ear. My boys will not have any peircing what so ever. Once they are 18 and out of my house they can do waht ever just as I did. I waited till I was out then got a tattoo, then a tongue ring and then another tattoo lol. It won't kill them to wait.
I think that its the parents choice on what their child gets done to their body but personally i think that a belly ring should be out of the question until they are able to go and get it done perfessionally themselfs. now a days kids are sexually active earlier and a belly ring is just one more reason for a boy to get close to that area lol...and everyone has heard about tongue rings, i waited until my 18th birthday to get mine done and i only did it cuz i felt like i wanted to go and get something else done to my body lol already had 2 tattoos didnt want another yet so id go get something peirced and that was the one thing i could think of that i would want lol...but like i had said everyone has heard about the tongue ring "reasoning" so like my opinion on belly rings..when they are old enough to get it done themselfs...lol thank god my child is a boy idk what id do since i got my belly done at 16 and then did my tongue at 18*professionally each time same with my tattoos which i got at 17*
Depends on the kid, their responsibility, etc.
Nancy, what gain to put a hole in the tongue? The same gain as putting one in the ears.
Anyway, I think every family is different, so there's no right or wrong answer to this. For example, I had 3 in each earlobe, both cartilage and my nose pierced in 7th grade. By high school, my parents didn't really care what I did. Well, my dad did, but my mom told him that this is about the only time in a kid's life they can get the piercings and dye their hair weird colors, and it doesn't have repercussions. That's the stance I hold as well.
If my kids want their nose or eyebrow pierced once they're preteens, it's okay with me. Once they're in high school, we can do tongues, lips, or belly buttons if they want. The only reason belly buttons is higher age than than the nose or eyebrow is because A. it's harder to take care of and B. it's a little more "mature" of a piercing.
Rana, you're on point to remind us that there's no right or wrong here, only preference.
I say why not...i have 22 piercings (10 in one ear, 9 in the other including an industrial, eyebrow, tongue and bellybutton) and died my hair every color under the sun with my parents consent....i also had a high GPA and have dedicated my life to working with special needs children so ya know......i think its sad how people judge on outward appearance...basically if you (or your child) is a good person than what they look like shouldn't matter and that includes piercings
12 with a body piercing? hell no
No...I don't think so...ears are okay...but nose, tongue, or anything else that cannot be covered should wait...and personally I have asked to be moved to a different server at a restaurant because our server had a tongue ring and I thought it was nasty...every time she talked I kept thinking it was going to fall out...not something I want to look at or think about when I am trying to eat...AJ
Torn... I like to think of myself as a "cool" and "progressive" parent, but when I went into my son's third grade class the other day for a presentation, I about choked when I saw a little girl with a nose ring... come to find out it was the little fake stick on kind. All I know is when my daughter was 3, we got her ears pierced, and it was a living nightmare, and they got infected, and now she's 4 and no longer has pierced ears!!! I don't want to be responsible for reminding my kid every four hours to rinse their mouth, or wash out their nose/eyebrow/belly button. I don't want them ripped out on the bus or the playground. So, I guess I'm not as cool as I thought :)