Teen Dating Abuse: What Is It?

domestic violenceDomestic violence, so to speak, doesn't only affect grown women. Teen girls are susceptible to it too. Unfortunately for teenage girls, dating abuse is even more of a secret than it is in adult populations.

True story: Miguena, a pretty girl I went to middle school with was killed by her boyfriend only a few years later.

No parent can possibly process that.


To prevent more tragedies like that one, the good people over at ThatsNotCool.com have provided a teen dating abuse check list for every teen in a relationship. Oftentimes, a teenager who is being abused not only hides from her family, but isn't even sure if she should call it abuse. So if you have a teen daughter who is dating (although abuse can happen to guys too), have her answer these questions and send them to her friends...

Is your boyfriend or partner...

  • overly jealous or possessive?

Does he...

  • put you down or criticize you?
  • threaten or scare you?
  • hit, slap, punch or kick you?
  • control what you wear, where you go, what you do?
  • try to stop you from seeing friends or family?
  • try to force you to have sex?

Any one of these things constitutes abuse. If you know a teen who needs to talk to someone right now, someone who's trained to help, the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. All calls and chats are anonymous and confidential. Call 1-866-331-9474 (1-866-331-8453 TTY).

Were you ever abused as a teen? Do you know anyone who was?

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