Domestic violence, so to speak, doesn't only affect grown women. Teen girls are susceptible to it too. Unfortunately for teenage girls, dating abuse is even more of a secret than it is in adult populations.
True story: Miguena, a pretty girl I went to middle school with was killed by her boyfriend only a few years later.
No parent can possibly process that.
To prevent more tragedies like that one, the good people over at ThatsNotCool.com have provided a teen dating abuse check list for every teen in a relationship. Oftentimes, a teenager who is being abused not only hides from her family, but isn't even sure if she should call it abuse. So if you have a teen daughter who is dating (although abuse can happen to guys too), have her answer these questions and send them to her friends...
Is your boyfriend or partner...
- overly jealous or possessive?
- put you down or criticize you?
- threaten or scare you?
- hit, slap, punch or kick you?
- control what you wear, where you go, what you do?
- try to stop you from seeing friends or family?
- try to force you to have sex?
Any one of these things constitutes abuse. If you know a teen who needs to talk to someone right now, someone who's trained to help, the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. All calls and chats are anonymous and confidential. Call 1-866-331-9474 (1-866-331-8453 TTY).
Were you ever abused as a teen? Do you know anyone who was?