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Join the Fight Against Toxic Kids' ProductsShe's old enough to join the Marines, but that's not the issue. Your 18-year-old lives in your house--and there is no sign of her leaving anytime soon.
When children become "of age," (a term I always found so relative), expectations from the world certainly change. But do expectations at home? Many parents have an 18-year-old in college, yet still at home. It's one thing if a child graduates high school and then does nothing--no college or work--they clearly should get no special privileges.
But when a responsible, mature 18-year-old is trying to establish independence--while home--mom's are left trying to figure out what the new rules should be. Later curfew or none at all? Chores or does college count for everything? The opposite sex sleeping over? Whoa, whoa, wait a minute.
Moms of Teens, a private group here on CM talks in-depth about issues just like this.
What are the new rules for your 18+, live-at-home college student?
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Comments (8)
My daughter will be attending school 1/2 hour way next year, I'm wondering the same thing. HELP
Terese, join Moms of Teens--there's a post up about this now!
My daughter is 16 months from turning 18. She knows that house rules will still be house rules. She will have a midnight curfew...which is a one hour extension. There will still be a no sex in our house policy. Friends can stay over but not boyfriends. If she is home to attend college then she needs to do work study or something to have her own money and she needs to keep her grades up. If she doesn't like it then she needs to move out.
But she is cool with that. She understands that this is part of respect and respecting a persons home. And there are still little kids in the house and she is a role model to them.
My DD is now 21, in College and lives with me. I wouldn't have it ANY other way. Maybe we are different but I'm single, she has a live-in boyfriend and we all live in a beautiful apt. that none of us could afford on our own. I'm on SSD and my DD is there for me when I get sick also. I really like her BF as I taught her how she should expect to be treated by a man and he treats her wonderful.
It's a lot easier for kids to attend college and live at home than try to attend college while working and barely scraping by. As long as they're IN school, I don't see an issue with them living at home.
My DD is 22 and a senior in college. We live in the same town as the University. I WISH she would just live with us but she insisted on her own place. Our rule is she has to be responsible for her apartment rent and utilities on her own so she does this via part time job and loans...and that is the part that nearly makes me sick, the student loans. I wish she would just live with us for free (after all, it doesn't cost me much more when she is here than it does with just the other 2 girls) and then get her own place when she graduates. Mom and Dad don't offer free room and board forever, ya know? LOL
She did live with us Sophmore year and I was pretty lenient with the rules. But she's a pretty respnsible and respectful person and there were no major problems. I would welcome her back.
My 18 year old goes to school 2 hours away from home. I am so happy to see her when she does come home. It was hard to enforce the curfew when she was home over Christmas for a month. She is brutally honest and tells me about the parties, keg parties of the past, etc. . I don't think I want to know everything! She is a good kid, doesn't have a boyfriend (and if she did, he ain't sleeping over!), is getting good grades - made the Dean's List, and I am in no rush to move her out of the house anytime soon!
My son is 20 and has 26 credit hours this sem. and he lives on campus. I see him about once a month.He plans on becoming a state trooper.The last time we talked he was moving out of state for a job. I would let him move back home if he wanted to but I would have rules