14 Things Your Kid's Teachers Wish They Could Tell You

Wendy Robinson | Aug 8, 2016 Big Kid
14 Things Your Kid's Teachers Wish They Could Tell You

TeacherOne of my best friends is a teacher. Over the last 15 years, I've heard from her all about parents, good and bad. Before I even had kids, I knew from my friend just how hard teachers work and how much parents can help or hinder what happens in the classroom. 

Now that I have a kid in school, I try to remember to think of his teachers as allies and to remember all the things that I've heard are parenting faux pas. But, I wonder what ELSE I don't know that teachers haven't told me.

So I asked my friend and 13 other teachers to give it to me straight: What do they wish parents knew or understood? What should we just STOP doing? Here's what your kid's teacher isn't telling you.


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  • Please Don't Call Me If It's Not Urgent

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    "If you need to get ahold of me and it isn't urgent, please email me instead of calling or making an appointment to see me. I can easily email you back from home or while the kids are doing work. Phone calls are a pain to return. And I hate talking on the phone after a long day of talking to kids." -- Mrs. A., 5th grade teacher 

  • Change Can Be Good

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    "If I can be blunt: STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT 'NEW' MATH! Yes, the way we teach some things has changed since you were a kid. That is called progress. You also probably didn't have computers in the class to learn coding either." -- Miss R., 4th grade teacher 

  • Don't Complain -- Vote!

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    "I'm not in charge of how many kids are in the class or if we get new textbooks or if we have specials like art and music. Parents who care about these things need to stop complaining to teachers about them and start voting. Vote for better education by voting in school board elections and local elections." -- Mrs. H., 1st grade teacher

  • Talk to Me

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    "Last year, at the end of the year, I had a mom mention that homework had been a major struggle all year and was taking them hours every night. My homework should have taken 20 minutes, tops. I wish she had told me they were struggling so much so I could have tried to help or referred them to the school counselor for evaluation. I didn't know." -- Mr. C., 3rd grade teacher

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  • Show Up -- It's Important

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    "Nothing bums me out more than parents who ditch parent-teacher conferences. Like, really? You don't have 20 minutes to come talk to me about how your kid is doing? Showing up matters." -- Mr. T., 5th grade teacher

  • Your Kid Needs to Go to Bed Earlier

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    "I've been teaching kindergarten for 34 years and I think the biggest thing I wish today's parents knew is that their kids need more sleep. Your 5- or 6-year-old should be in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 at the latest. I have way too many afternoon meltdowns from kids who just need more rest." -- Mrs. A., kindergarten teacher

  • Sometimes I Do Play Favorites

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    "I try not to have favorite students, though most of us do, but I FOR SURE have favorite parents. I love the parents who volunteer to come be reading buddies in my class. That extra time and attention for my struggling readers is amazing." -- Mrs. G., 1st grade teacher 

  • Stop Pressuring Your Kid

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    "I just wish parents would remember that life is a marathon, not a sprint. Some kids will hit certain milestones first, some kids will be better readers, everyone learns at their own pace. So don't freak out if your kid isn't the star of second grade. They have a lot of life and learning ahead of them. Just love them and don't worry so much." -- Mrs. K., 2nd grade teacher

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  • I Love Them Too

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    "As a pre-K teacher, I get lots of cuddles and kids who tell me they love me. I love them too. I hope parents know that." -- Miss J., pre-K teacher

  • My Days Are Long

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    "No, I'm not 'so lucky' to be done for the day at 3:00 p.m.! Your kids might leave then but I still have grading, lesson prep, and cleaning up to do. My kids go to the same after-school care program yours do because I'm not usually done until at least 5:00 p.m." -- Mrs. G., 4th grade teacher

  • Feed Them Better in the Morning

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    "I swear, I have a classroom full of space cadets every morning by 10 a.m. Mostly it's because they are hungry. I know the mornings are busy, but PLEASE feed your kid breakfast! It totally makes a difference." -- Mrs. P, 1st grade teacher

  • What's Happening in Your House Affects Your Kid in School

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    "I really appreciate it when parents give me a heads-up that their kid is having a bad day or is going through some sort of life transition like a divorce or loss of a pet. I can be more mindful of giving them extra support if the parents warn me about what is going on at home." -- Mrs. N., 4th grade teacher

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  • Failure IS an Option

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    "Every kid needs to fail or struggle at some point! Failure is how they learn grit and to bounce back. Stop swooping in and saving them from it. Let them get that bad grade instead of staying up all night to help them finish a project. Failure is an excellent teacher, in small doses." -- Mrs. F., 5th grade teacher

  • Read More With Your Kid

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    "I wish all parents read to their children more. There is no better thing you can do to help raise a good learner than to read every single day with them." -- Mrs H., 1st grade teacher

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