School Offers to Change Students' Grades If Parents Don't Like Them

School Report Card showing all A Grades

Growing up, do you remember how you felt when it was time for grades to be sent home? Some kids jump for joy, while others either cross their fingers in the hopes that their parents will forget to ask -- or they find some believable way to alter documents. Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island is an all-boys school in New York that's gaining attention for their letter to parents that offers to change their children's report cards.


Wait, I'm sorry ... come again?

By the look of this letter, school officials at Yeshiva Ketana want to keep their students' self-esteem intact -- even if it means creating another version of children's report cards with "higher grades."

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In case it's hard to read, here's what the letter says:

Dear Parents,

Enclosed you will find your son's report card for the first semester. Please note that report cards are only one indication of how your son is doing. After you review it carefully, feel free to contact your son's Rebbe, teacher or the administration to discuss any of your concerns.

This report card is an opportunity to praise your son for his areas of strength, encourage him to keep up his fine efforts and to improve any areas of weakness. We are especially proud of our students who were recognized for their fine behavior.

Since our goal is to share accurate information with the parents, and not to discourage or hurt a student, great discretion must be used before allowing your child to view his report card. Certainly, report cards should not be seen by students without parental permission and guidance. If after receiving the enclosed report card, you would like us to develop a second version of this report card for your son with higher grades, please call [...]

Looking forward to continued Nachas from our children [...]

... Um, yeah ...

Soo let me get this straight: Students at this school aren't supposed to open their own report cards (with their own grades) without parental guidance, and moms and dads can request the school to make a new report card -- with higher grades?

Have we really entered a day and age where coddling is the preferred method of teaching our children?

How on earth is that supposed to teach our children about the real world? Sorry, but in life -- including that expensive place called college -- you can't go back to your professor or employer and say, "Hey, you know what? I think I need higher marks than what I got. I don't like what I received. Please change it ... 'kay, thanks."


Listen, I agree that grades aren't always a reflection of a student's aptitude or academic excellence. Some people (myself included) aren't great test takers. Some people (myself included) struggle with certain subjects, even if they study around the clock, make detailed note cards, and hire a tutor. And there are some with conditions that can make learning a little more challenging.

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Here's my "keep it real" moment for the day. I bombed my SATs. I took those suckers twice, and got a lower score after my dad hired a personal tutor (thankfully, I still got into the university that I wanted). It's not that I was slacking off, or that I'm dumb. Certain testing formats and I don't agree with each other. That, however, didn't mean I received any bonus points for trying, or a higher score in case I was in my feelings.

While I was a pretty good student (I got mostly As and Bs), there were struggle classes, like anything science-based, that made me feel like a loser. My parents knew I was trying my hardest and getting help -- and if my best was a C+, dammit, they still took me out to Red Lobster (growing up, that was our thing), because they knew I gave it my all.

Yes, grades aren't everything. But sorry, that doesn't mean schools should start lying to children by giving them a higher grade than they earned. It's a false reality that, sadly, will set kids up for a very rude awakening.

I'm sending you back to the drawing board on this one. It's a little nuts!



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