Co-Sleeping With Big Kids: Part 2

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After reading your responses to the Co-Sleeping with Big Kids post last week, I knew it was important that I share a perspective that supports the other view on co-sleeping--the one that say it is perfectly healthy.


A lot of you felt that the expert I cited was patently wrong on the co-sleeping issue by suggesting that co-sleeping makes kids too dependant and is otherwise unhealthy.

TanyaR1024 made a few valid points: "My son did until about 3 years old. I think allowing your children into your bed is telling them, "I will be here for you when you need me. You will know when you are ready to move on to the next step." Adults don't sleep alone generally. Most of us sleep with a spouse...It's amazing to me how women all over the world and all throughout history have slept with their babies and yet modern American women just can't manage..."

Also, an article at written by a real mom several years ago, sheds wonderful light on the "family bed" concept. It made me consider what is most rewarding about the idea:

Oh, the play that goes on in the family bed! The giggles, the tickles, the games of hide-and-seek and peekaboo...OK, sure, some of these games take place at 2:00 in the morning, but hey, if you just go with it, it’s not an issue. Sometimes when I get home from work, there is dinner to be cooked, and a toilet that really needs scrubbing, the breakfast dishes are still on the counter, and who forgot to shut the bread box again, the rolls are all dried out. It is sometimes hard to keep in mind that in 20 years your kids will not remember the dirty dishes, nor if dinner’s macaroni and cheese again—but they will recall those sweet games of peekaboo at sunrise...

What do you consider the advantages/disadvantages of co-sleeping with older kids?

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