kate gosselin sonsSince her reality television debut, Kate Gosselin has been controversial. From her sextuplet pregnancy to her split with Jon Gosselin and even to her rumored tryst with her bodyguard, she's been contentious. But the most debatable topic? Her parenting choices. A former nanny has recently come forward, and we have learned just how strict of a household the matriarch runs. Apparently, the Kate Gosselin discipline strategy is to make her boys pull weeds from the yard as punishment.

According to the nanny, "When the boys were in trouble, they were made to go outside, in their giant yard, and pull weeds." Aaden, Collin, and Joel, who are all now 10 years old, have to work their punishment off manually. And, bonus: Kate gets her yard work done.

All right, it's no secret that Kate runs a tight ship. The nanny has also mentioned that she has spied while the kids talk to their dad, and Kate even had a very special babysitter rule book that all visitors had to follow. Right down to where they put their shoes and what time all chores must immediately stop (it's 9 p.m. on the dot, no exceptions).

But this news is of a whole new caliber.

Listen, chores are important. Most parents will never argue with that statement. They teach responsibility and can boost a kid's self-esteem when they see they've completed a task from start to finish. Plus, they get to help Mom or Dad around the home, so the satisfaction of contributing is also enough reason to start instituting your very own family chore chart.

But using it as a punishment? Doesn't that defy all the purposes? If a kid starts learning that chores = punishment, the anger will be directed at parents and the task. And the remorse they should feel for whatever they have done wrong? Gone.

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Granted, if a child misbehaved against a sibling, it's only fair that they have to complete their brother or sister's assigned chore as a form of "payback." That seems absolutely fair. But to dole out random and somewhat nightmarish tasks (admit it, no one likes pulling weeds) just to have them think about what they've done wrong? That won't address the root issue -- their behavior.

And guaranteed, while they're donning those flowery gardening gloves and wrenching those aggravating weeds from the dirt, the last thing they're doing is reflecting on their behavior and thinking about apologizing.

Do you use chores as punishment in your home? If so, how does it work?

 

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