Kate Gosselin’s Punishment for Her Sons Will Backfire

kate gosselin sonsSince her reality television debut, Kate Gosselin has been controversial. From her sextuplet pregnancy to her split with Jon Gosselin and even to her rumored tryst with her bodyguard, she's been contentious. But the most debatable topic? Her parenting choices. A former nanny has recently come forward, and we have learned just how strict of a household the matriarch runs. Apparently, the Kate Gosselin discipline strategy is to make her boys pull weeds from the yard as punishment.

According to the nanny, "When the boys were in trouble, they were made to go outside, in their giant yard, and pull weeds." Aaden, Collin, and Joel, who are all now 10 years old, have to work their punishment off manually. And, bonus: Kate gets her yard work done.

All right, it's no secret that Kate runs a tight ship. The nanny has also mentioned that she has spied while the kids talk to their dad, and Kate even had a very special babysitter rule book that all visitors had to follow. Right down to where they put their shoes and what time all chores must immediately stop (it's 9 p.m. on the dot, no exceptions).

But this news is of a whole new caliber.

Listen, chores are important. Most parents will never argue with that statement. They teach responsibility and can boost a kid's self-esteem when they see they've completed a task from start to finish. Plus, they get to help Mom or Dad around the home, so the satisfaction of contributing is also enough reason to start instituting your very own family chore chart.

But using it as a punishment? Doesn't that defy all the purposes? If a kid starts learning that chores = punishment, the anger will be directed at parents and the task. And the remorse they should feel for whatever they have done wrong? Gone.

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Granted, if a child misbehaved against a sibling, it's only fair that they have to complete their brother or sister's assigned chore as a form of "payback." That seems absolutely fair. But to dole out random and somewhat nightmarish tasks (admit it, no one likes pulling weeds) just to have them think about what they've done wrong? That won't address the root issue -- their behavior.

And guaranteed, while they're donning those flowery gardening gloves and wrenching those aggravating weeds from the dirt, the last thing they're doing is reflecting on their behavior and thinking about apologizing.

Do you use chores as punishment in your home? If so, how does it work?

 

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Jacee... Jacee2348

Um, I fail to see why having a kid pull weeds when they've said or done something bad is wrong??? Is it just because it's Kate Gosselin who is dishing out that form of punishment? To me it says misbehaving = kids having to do something they don't like. Seems to me it would deter that behavior in the future. I really don't understand why this is a bad thing. Really. Please explain.

nonmember avatar Anonymous

Oh please, nobody (that I know) likes pulling weeds. I've used it as punishment for my kids and it worked! They have regular chores they do but that isn't one of them. This isn't going to hurt her kids.

LeeshaE LeeshaE

I do not use chores as punishment for my 10 y/o. He has regular chores like cleaning his room, picking up after the dogs, and taking out the trash. These are expected as his contribution to our home then he does additional work for cash he gets about $1 per chore.

Paws84 Paws84

I dont see anything wrong with it. My dad made me do the same stuff as a punishment and I hated it. But I definetly thought twice the next time I was about to screw up. Also, I was thinking about my messed up behavior the whole time because if I hadn't of done whatever I did, I probably wouldn't be sad that I dissapointed my dad. Knowing you dissapointed your parents should feel a lot worse than any punishment because you should have respect for them. Something most kids don't nowadays because their parents let them get away with murder. I'm not saying Kate Gosselin is a perfect mother by any means, but I can think of far worse parents out there.

00NoW... 00NoWay00

Hmmm ... not a Kate fan, myself, but I don't see anything wrong with it. It's a chore that needs to be done and it's unpleasant. It's not like she made them scrub the floor with a toothbrush or some other unnecessary task.

Tracys2 Tracys2

We don't, but that's how my husband's family did it, and they lived on a 60 acre farm, so (1) it was on top of feeding animals, harvesting tobacco, homework, etc., and (2) plenty to do. Punishment for being out late was chores extra-early. One job was to trim all the lawn (around house, barn, trees, etc) with scissors. It was pre-trimmers, so the job needed to be done, but not fun at all!


My thought is that it's superb, because they are outside getting exercise as they are punished, instead of inside, stewing, and exercise can really help behaviour. And something productive happens. Work gets done. Which does not happen in a time out or toy removal. After the job, the kid has experienced hard work (good), got some exercise (good), and done something he can see and be proud of.  Why is that bad?


I don't get why the girls didn't have this punishment, which makes no senes to me, but otherwise I'm good.

nonmember avatar Gina

My husband had to move rocks as a punishment. He hated it, but says that it was a big contributing factor to the strong work ethic he has. I guess I fail to see the problem.

nonmember avatar daughter12

Its not that bad but it also depends how long it took them to pull the weeds and how hot it is. If they did it pretty quick then well its not that much of a punishment. That's actually my problem with doing work as punishment like the chart where you have a list with a bunch things you want the kid to do and they have to get all the points to be punishment free. I have problem with those because if child is doing it in a matter of a day, then they aren't thinking abouyt what they did and are focusing on getting everything done quick. My question though is how many people talking about their husbands and themselves having to do this, actually make their own kids do it because no one has said anything about their kids doing something like this but just people they know.

mem82 mem82

Seriously? Just what is an okay punishment at this point? Don't spank, don't use the word 'no', don't ground a child, don't make them do extra chores or go to bed early? Exactly what is OK to do? I hate to be trite, but this line of thinking is why there are a lot of brats in this world.

nonmember avatar daughter12

Mem82...

Look at everyone agreeing with kate punishment....your comment is not needed.

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