Kate Gosselin Takes Spying on Her Kids Way Too Far ​

Kate GosselinIt's no secret that Kate Gosselin is a bit of a control freak. Anyone who's watched even one episode of TLC's defunct reality show Jon & Kate Plus 8 has seen evidence of that. Or you know, even one daytime talk show interview where Kate demands teen twins Mady and Cara to answer when they clam up on national TV.

Now RadarOnline.com is reporting that Kate keeps a secret babysitter rulebook, and some of the demands take her control freakery to a whole other level. Like the fact that she'll "freak out" if they don't landscape, do chores, and take care of the chickens (literal chickens in the coop -- not the children). But the most disturbing rule is the one that demands the sitters to spy on the children's every interaction with their dad.

Jon and Kate split in 2009 in one of the messiest celeb divorces we've ever seen. But you'd think -- you'd hope! -- that even the most vitriolic ex-spouses would be able to put their kids' best interests first.

According to the report, Kate demands that her child-minders "eavesdrop" on all conversations between twins Mady and Cara, 13, and sextuplets Leah, Aaden, Collin, Alexis, Hannah, and Joel, 10, and their father Jon Gosselin.

"ALWAYS listen with one ear to hear what they’re saying," the manual supposedly reads. "You are always my eyes and ears and need to report everything you see and hear!!!"

Apparently they're not given free reign to chat with Dad either. "They may call their dad when they ask permission using the house phone only. You do not have to grant permission if you are busy or the schedule doesn’t allow it ... please keep a listening ear open and have them stand nearby."

One anonymous former sitter also spilled that she had to keep detailed notes if she ever interacted with Jon. She said, "Even if we had a conversation about nothing, I had to e-mail her all the details ... I also had to keep a log of every time Jon returned the [shared] van to make sure he used the correct amount of gas!"

Holy bitter ex-wife, Batman! Now in all fairness, there's no proof that these allegations are true. However, given Kate's personal history, there's a good chance they could be true or at least some version of it.

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Look, I know co-parenting is really rough sometimes. It is so hard to share children with an ex-spouse who you really can't stand, but you have to do it for the sake of your children. So long as abuse or abandonment isn't involved, kids need to have a relationship with both parents. A free, loving, open relationship that doesn't include the other parent.

When my kids FaceTime or talk on the phone with their dad, I actually try to give them some privacy. I respect their relationship with him, accept that they love him just as much as they love me, and I deal with it like a grownup. They need him, and they need to know that I won't get in the middle of their bond or use them to hurt him. They deserve that.

If Kate really is preventing her kids from having contact with their father, she needs to put about a bajillion dollars in their therapy jar, because this is not going to end well.

Do you think divorced parents should spy on their kids' interactions with their ex-spouse?


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Julie Clayton Goen

Kate Gosseline is one of the most miserable people I h above ever seen or heard.

Jan VanLiew Brewster

I am certainly glad I don't have Kate as a mother. That woman needs MAJOR therapy for her CONTROL freaky issues. Yuck!! Jon should be happy he got away from her.
Her 15 minutes were up long ago!!

peanu... peanutsmommy1

isn't this the same woman you thought was so wonderful that you gave her a blog on The Stir not too long ago???

terpmama terpmama

There may be a reason that contact with Jon is monitored. I worked with kids who had some issues (psych inpatient care).... Their calls were all monitored to some degree depending on the situation (some had to be on speaker phone, others just "overheard). We also had to document topics and/or times we intervined. You don't know what is going on.

RoseFan1 RoseFan1

Yea, you can be quick to judge. And I agree they should have A relationship with both parents, but you don't know the whole story. Maybe work on being that grown up you mentioned there and stop gossiping and judging. And someone YOU DO NOT PERSONALLY KNOW at that. My sons visitation is fixing to be monitored at all times if my ex doesn't watch himself. My son came home this weekend saying some really not cool things, and he's 3, how/why would he say it if not mimicking? Not like hed make it up on his own right now...


nonmember avatar GiGi

Not a Kate"hater" like she and her fans like to say but it wouldn't surprise me at all that this is true. We all saw how controlling she was on her show so this is just one more thing. I agree that they both need to grow up and get along for the kids sake. Funny that The Stir was once thought Kate was so great and now all we see from you are negative articles.

abra819 abra819

Can't stand the woman.

nonmember avatar Tina G

He has bad mouthed her publicly. Children should not ever hear one patent wish the other dead- which Jon did on television. If I were in Kate's shoes I would monitor too! Just to ensure he is not saying negative things to the kids or putting then in the middle.

nonmember avatar Don

This behavior is nothing new...fathers who want to be in their children life do encounter ex-wives or ex-girl friends like this. I bet she even send herself a Father's Day card!

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