For most of us, sleepovers bring to mind viewing PG-rated movies, pizza, ice cream, painting nails, and maaaybe a silly prank or two in the middle of the night. No big deal, right? Definitely nothing compared to what one mom in Pennsylvania is now contending with after her 12-year-old daughter came home from her sleepover tattooed!
The girl was sleeping over at the house of a friend, who was being supervised by Randall Charlton and Melissa Becker. Becker was reportedly being given a tattoo when the 12-year-old asked if she could have one of her own, noting that her mom would be fine with it. For some reason, the couple didn't think twice ...
The couple tattooed the girl a smiley face on her arm, along with the word "bitch." Insane. And it's no wonder the two now face charges, including endangering the welfare of a child.
Of course, this is an extreme case. Most of us aren't sending our kids off to sleepovers worrying that they're going to come back tattooed! But what happened here does raise the question of what we should be thinking or doing when we entrust another parent with our child's welfare for even a night.
Parents obviously need to share contact info, be in touch when appropriate, and make it clear to one another beforehand what they're cool with and what they're not. Kids wanting to alter their appearance in any way -- maybe we're talking an ear piercing or hair dye -- is one thing. That's most definitely a case where most parents would realize they need to be in touch with one another. But is an R-rated movie off the table? What about the supervising parent offering Tylenol or Advil? Even eating certain foods (gluten, nuts, fast food, etc.) may be of concern to some moms.
In the end, no mom wants to drop her kid off with a laundry list of "don'ts," but at the same time, more communication than less can help preempt a jaw-dropping, embarrassing, or traumatizing situation. Not to mention one that ends up in court!
What do you usually discuss with your child's parent before a sleepover?
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