Dad Files a Restraining Order Against a 9-Year-Old Who Punched His Son

A concerned father may have found the most ingenious solution of all time to having his kid being bullied -- he filed a restraining order against the 9-year-old he says was bullying his son. While this might sound like yet another case of a parent being overprotective and stepping in to fight battles that should best be left to the kids, the dad says he did this as a "last resort," and that he had "tried everything else," and yet the school district was still ignoring him.

Authorities say this is the first time they'd heard of a restraining order granted against a child -- though there is no law against it. Other parents are saying that the dad isn't teaching his son to function in the "real world" and that you can't go around filing restraining orders against everyone you have an issue with.

Presumably, the man's son is the same age as the so-called bully, and this is an age where kids still need their parents to step in and protect them if need be. But it's also a fine line -- kids need to learn how to deal with negative and sometimes downright demoralizing situations. But do they have to learn how to "deal" with physical abuse?

I don't think that physical abuse or long-term psychological abuse should be part and parcel of going to school -- or living at home, or going to work for that matter. Yes, you do have to learn how to deal with difficult personalities, and kids should be taught that as well. But there's a difference between dealing with a kid who is nasty to you -- and one who punches you in the face and seems to have gotten away with it.

But if a kid is constantly in danger of being abused, or is being threatened, then I see no reason why a restraining order can't be a last resort protective measure. Even against a kid.

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Melody Billington

 I absolutely agree with this.  It teaches both children a valuable lesson.  The one child learns that you can stand up for yourself and the law will protect you when you are not strong enough.  The other child learns that there are legal ramifications and you can't just do whatever you want.  My kid punched someone at school the other day and the school told me I was being too harsh in my grounding of the child.  I  told the school they should have suspended my child and if I had done it I would be sitting in jail.  There are consequences for your actions.  Its about time someone is standing up and teaching this to the kids.  And no it is never okay to be abused by anyone.  Teaching  kids they need to toughen up only perpetuates domestic abuse. 

nonmember avatar blue

" Other parents are saying that the dad isn't teaching his son to function in the "real world" and that you can't go around filing restraining orders against everyone you have an issue with." No, but you CAN file against someone who is abusing you and the abuse won't stop. Idiots! If my kid was being bullied and no one was doing a darn thing about it, you bet I would do this.

Ajack324 Ajack324

@Melody I think ure being a great parent. It's so infuriating when the parents of the aggressor won't take responsibility. I don't know the circumstances around ur child's situation but bravo for showing him there are consequences for acting out. I wish more parents were like u.

Frost... FrostyMelted

Kudos to this father. He absolutely did the right thing. Bullies should be caned. 

nonmember avatar Foster

Had the kid been punched ONCE and legal action was taken I'd say "he's not teaching his child how to deal with the real world" but this is on going abuse and NO ONE deserves that. Had this been happening to an adult and they sought legal action everyone would be cheering and patting the victim on the back. This is the same thing but children instead of adults. Good for this dad

wamom223 wamom223

I think its a great idea and it teaches a lesson to the school also.  If you wont protect our children we will find someone who will.

MomMom23 MomMom23

@wamom223 - I totally agree with you. My son is going to start kindergarten this year and I'm terrified. 2 of my neices and one of my nephews have been bullied in school and they have done nothing to stop it. 

lizilli lizilli

School administrators are, by and large, cowards!  They don't want to make decisions or face angry parents of bullies, those bullies had to learn this behavior somewhere, maybe not from the parents, but who knows.  If a school district and it's administrators won't step in or take action what is a parent to do?  This Dad has taught his child about "real world" action.  It's not about adapting to physicial abuse or mental anguish, it's about how the "real world" might deal with this abuse, since the school is not up for any conflict resolution, Dad did a GOOD!

swick... swickey417

This IS how you deal with violence in the real world. Also im the real world that bully would be in jail for assault.

Mae Clark

I agree with the dad. Bullies need to be dealt with and if the school isn't doing anything why not take it to the authorities.

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