Have you or your daughter ever been called the "B-word?"
And no, I don't mean that rude and incredibly disgusting "B-word," but the other one: bossy.
Well, it turns out that assertive, intelligent, and confident young women (um, clearly all good things) are labeled as "bossy" and become discouraged from taking on leadership positions. They become afraid of asserting themselves.
Let's be honest, wouldn't you be nervous and demoralized if someone kept calling you "bossy"? It's automatically going to lead to labels like "aggressive," "angry," and "too ambitious."
Boys, on the other hand, do not have the same problem. First off, they're never called "bossy." Instead, they're "leaders." Hmm... seeing the difference here?
These behaviors begin as early as grade school, and continue on to middle school, high school, college, and far, far beyond. We working ladies are not exempt from these similar judgments.
But starting today, we're officially taking a stand and pledging to "Ban Bossy."
This campaign, started by LeanIn.org and the Girl Scouts is all about one thing: encouraging leadership in girls. And we definitely need some more girl power around here, amirite?!
Today, Monday, March 10, we'd love you to join us in taking the pledge on Twitter by tweeting the following and filling in the blank: “I’m not bossy. I’m a _____.” #banbossy. We'll go with "leader" or "pioneer." Or "awesome." See what I did there?
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Sheryl Sandberg, the current COO of Facebook and the first woman to serve on the company's executive board (you go, girl!), has launched the campaign to motivate girls and women to take on the leadership roles and stop the hate.
To help the girls in your life, check out Ban Bossy, where you can download the educational materials and guides and get tips on how to begin the conversation.
Studies have found that one-third of young women who do not want to be leaders fear being called "bossy" by their peers. They are 33% less likely than boys to take on the leader role in projects, and would rather be well-liked and popular than competent and independent.
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It's time to put a stop to that attitude. Let's show our girls that they can be well-liked and competent. Popular and independent.
Because "who run the world?"
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