5 Bad Mom Habits That Are Messing Up Our Kids

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The other day I walked into my daughter’s room, wait, scratch that, I couldn’t actually walk into my daughter’s room; it was way too messy. There are clothes strewn all over the floor, dolls in various of states of undress were scattered all over the place like victims of a deadly hurricane, and I swear I saw something moving under her bed.

Now, as much as I would love to blame her slovenly ways on someone anyone else, I know the truth. It is all my fault. I am not a cleaner, a neat-freak or even one to hang up their coat. I am a slob. And now my daughter, thanks to me, is too. Of course she is -- they keep telling us little kids are sponges, right?

This got me thinking, what other bad habits are we passing on to our children? What else do we complain about in our kids that is really OUR faults? I asked my fellow moms about what bad habits their kids have inherited:

Bossiness
As a parent being bossy is part of the job. But what happens when you kid inherits that bossiness? A war of wills, that’s what. This can become more and more intense with frequent bossy-offs with no one being declared the winner.

Drama
As one friend said, her daughter acts like, “everything is the absolute end of the world,” but that's what happens when you're a little dramatic yourself. And with kids, it’s usually the most MUNDANE thing that are the end of the world like that you played the Demi Lovato version of “Let It Go” instead of the one by Idina Menzel.

Swearing
Language is one of those big things that children learn from us parents from pitch to cadence to swearing not unlike a sailor. If you are a frequent user of the “s-word,” “f-word,” or more obscure and/or colorful language, do not be surprised if your kids whip out one of those nuggets of naughtiness on the playground shocking young and old alike.

More From The Stir: 5 Reasons It's Okay to Swear in Front of Your Kids

Nail Biting
Children don’t just get our physical traits thanks to genetics, but they pick up on our physical behavior traits by observation. Habits like nail biting, when kids are exposed to them often, become a “normal” thing to do. These habits manifest themselves in all sorts of habits, but trying to stop for the sake of the kids can be a huge challenge.

Smart-ass-ness
While my daughter inherited my slovenliness, she also acquired a healthy portion of smart-ass-ness from my sarcastic, yet hilarious, husband. The key with smart-ass-ness and kids is teaching them when and when NOT to use it ... say when dealing with the school principal or a cop.

What bad qualities have your kids picked up from you?

 

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Jozemom Jozemom

Last week I got my period for the second time this month and I was an emotional basket case. After the kids were in bed I just broke down and started bawling. My husband asked what was wrong and I said "I don't know, I'm just crying and I can't stop!"


On Friday I picked DS (4) up from school and he started crying. I asked him what was wrong and he said "I don't know! I'm just crying for no reason just like you!" I guess kids pick up on more than we realize lol

Em Chappell-Root

My husband thought it was cute for our kids to chat back and be sassy. I told him with the oldest, "When he gets to school and we have problems listening and gets in trouble, YOU can explain to the teachers and principle where he got that from." My husband is from NY, and always swore our kids wouldn't be "overly mannered" like my family and southern relatives are. (We live in SC). I've instilled a basic sense of manners in my kids, but they are still sassy and take it too far sometimes. My bad habit is telling them "No sympathy for the devil", that if they get hurt doing something I told them not to, it's their own fault. I'll still cuddle them and kiss their boo-boos, but it's in a "What did you learn?" Sort of manner. My eldest has taken to being very unsympathetic when his younger siblings are injured through their own fault though, so we're going to have to stop. 

Bruic... Bruickson

I am not a morning person. At all. In fact, I am the crankiest person alive when I first wake up. My daughter use to wake up all sunshine and rainbows but after yrs of seeing me hating life and everyone in it every single morning she is just like me. She will even tell me to "go away, I'm too cranky right now". Thankfully we are both normal people again within 30 mins of getting up.

Katriena Young

The nail bitting thing!! OMG!! My mom has done that off and on for years and of course I followed her lead in it. It has taken me about 20 years to stop bitting my nails.

Tracys2 Tracys2

Anxiety related to a touch of perfectionism, untidiness, a touch of bossiness (mostly the oldest has that),  and a love of reading, learning, compassion, math and computers.


OK, it's not all bad. I think that while we recognise that and try to curb our bad habits, we should still realise that we are spreading good to our children as well.

Lindsay Christine Walker

I admittedly have a mouth that would make even the most hardened sailor/truck driver blush. My daughter is 8, son is 6, and toddler is 19 months. I have never heard ANY of them drop a swear word. Never.

Bruic... Bruickson

Same here @Lindsay. I have a horrible mouth and my daughter usually corrects me when I slip up! Though one time she was in the tub(3 yrs old at the time) and some water leaked from the shower head and hit her in the face. She said "what the hell was that?". She immediately started apologizing and I had to turn my head so she wouldn't see me laugh.

Blues... Blueshark77

I could see the sloppiness rubbing off. My bedroom is always a wreck, but I do try to limit my messy ways to that particular room. I was tidying up my daughter's room and she was going around behind pulling her toys and books out again. Maybe my slovenly ways, maybe cause she's one. :)

the4m... the4mutts

The only bad habit of mine that I CARE that my kids picked up, is being a bit on the perfectionist side. Im hard on myself very often, and they have all 4 picked it up.

I allow my kids to sass within reason, and also curse. They can't drop an F bomb or curse anywhere but at home. But seeing my kids cry their eyes out when they struggle with a task... Breaks my heart.

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