Overachieving Pinterest Moms Should Stop Making Valentines for Their Kids​

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child's valentineValentine's Day is nearly upon us, and you know what that means. All across the land, little kids have spent recent hours painstakingly printing out the names of their little friends on paper hearts. In just a matter of days, these little cuties who have put heart and soul into crafting their love notes for their pals are about to be upstaged ... by parents.

You know which parents I'm talking about. They spent hours on Pinterest, scrolling through idea after idea after idea, on the hunt for the cleverest and cutest of Valentines. Hours more were wasted in the craft store, dragging exhausted children into "just one more aisle" before they headed home, plopped the kids in front of the TV, and got to work ... on their kids' Valentine's Day cards

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The fruits of their labor will be stunning, I'm sure. No globs of glue or dribbles of paint in sight. They will come home in my daughter's backpack, and as I paw through the pile of Valentines, they will stand heads and tails above the others in terms of "quality."

And yet, I will know they did not come from any of her pals. No 8-year-old I've met has ever crafted anything that I've seen on Pinterest (at least nothing that gets repinned on the regular).

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Which is why these beauties will be shifted immediately to the bottom of the pile as I ooh and ahh over the misshapen hearts and the store-bought cartoon-covered rectangles with bad penmanship. The worse the cards look, the more sure I'll be that they came from a kid like mine, a kid who cared enough to put a little time and effort into making their friend smile.

Isn't that the point of Valentine's Day when you're 8? They're way too young to pin any romantic notions to February 14.

At 6, 7, 8, 9, even 10, the point of handing out Valentines to their classmates is still supposed to be about friendship ... and kindness. But what, exactly, is kind about waltzing into class with a backpack full of picture perfect crafts your mom Martha'd up over the weekend? It's not thoughtful in the least.

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And it certainly doesn't make the kids who spent hours on their cards feel terribly appreciated.

It's not that I'm against homemade cards, folks. Far from it. I'm a Pinterest junkie of the first degree, and I found more than a half dozen projects that were perfect for kids to make this holiday. I don't even have a problem with parents who help their kids with their Valentines -- it can be a great family bonding project.

Only, the key word here is "help." Not do. Help. If you want your kids to actually get anything out of Valentine's Day besides a stomach ache from all that candy, you'll back off ... and stop making our kids' creations look bad.

But then, our kids come by their messy cards honestly ...

How much help do you give your kids with their Valentines?

 

Image by Jeanne Sager

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jso12 jso12

Store bought Frozen and Minnie Cards with pencil attached that my 3 1/2 carefully but not very legibly wrote her name. I then wrote out her name next to it so they know the card was from her. I would love to attempt crafty cards with her as she gets older, but I will let her choose what she wants hence the Frozen and Minnie choices.

bec94 bec94

I am cutting a few things with my cricut because they asked, but that's it. My 4&6 yr olds will be gluing and decorating with stickers however they want.

early... earlybird11

My son helped me peel the outside paper on the crayons , break them and put them in the silicone mold... then I put them in the oven ;) yay for handmade heart crayons...... ohhh well , this pinterester loves to get to do something crafty after 50 hour work weeks :)

early... earlybird11

My son helped me peel the outside paper on the crayons , break them and put them in the silicone mold... then I put them in the oven ;) yay for handmade heart crayons...... ohhh well , this pinterester loves to get to do something crafty after 50 hour work weeks :)

bandg... bandgeek521

I don't see it as any different than just buying a box of cards for them to sign their name to. If all either gets is a signature and quick message, I don't think it matters whether the card was store bought or made by Mom.

Lacey Otis

Frankly, I don't care if a mom makes her kids Valentines. Why is a mom making the cards herself not thoughtful, while a mom who purchases pre-made cards is? Some moms have more time than others and if one wants to make Valentines, then that's her priority. The Valentines are for the kids, not for parents to decide which ones they think are better than the others.

Donna Williams

Maybe I am wrong, but I don't think there are that many parents out there who actually have their kids make homemade valentines day cards. It seems to be that most are cards already printed up and all the child needs to do is sign them which canbe painstaking for a child just learning to write. Why are moms so hard on other moms??? Ther are reasons people do what they do! Some moms have absolutely very little time to help with making cards or even just getting the materials to make them so they do buy ready made. Other moms like to be creative and the child feels special because mommy cared enough to do that. Other kids would love to make their own because they want to and their mom has the time. Just be happy that all the kids will get some kind of card! Some mothers just plain feel jealous over a mom who does like to create. I just wish we could all give a little grace to moms who are giving their kids love.



Simpl... SimplyEnchanted

So, your kid MADE the cartoon covered storebought? You realize someone had to have made/printed those...right?

As long as the kid signs mom's handmade card I have no odea why you have your panties in a twist. You sound jealous. Tell me, did your valentine project flop so now you are bitter?

Ashley Littlejohn

My son wanted light saber cards he saw on pinterest when we were looking through the geek section just for fun. So I drew up a handle and we're attaching glow sticks and he's signing them. He also wants to make a TARDIS card for his favorite baby sitter, which is going to require more work on my part than his, but he still came up with both ideas on his own and loves how they look so far. I'll never tell my children I won't help them make a thoughtful just because another parent feels "upstaged" by it. That isn't fair to my craft loving kids and it's great bonding for us.

the4m... the4mutts

Its a card. Get over it.

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