Growing Families

What Your Child's Birth Order Says About His Personality (PHOTOS)

3 little girls

I'm sure the idea of whether or not birth order can affect your personality has crossed your mind a time or two -- and honestly, it looks like it might have more of an influence on how we (and our kids) act and conduct ourselves than we thought.

According to some researchers, it all has to do with the fact that moms and dads parent each child differently, which means kids wind up taking on different roles in the family -- giving them their own distinct personalities.

It turns out that most kiddos fall into one of four categories when it comes to how they act based on when they were born.

Take a look at these photos to see which ones fit you and your kids -- and to see if they hit the nail right on the head!

Are you a first born, middle, baby, or only child?


Image via Annie Engel/Corbis

siblings, slideshow start slideshow


To add a comment, please log in with

Use Your CafeMom Profile

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Comment As a Guest

Guest comments are moderated and will not appear immediately.

Coles... Coles_mom

We have three kids and this is SO SO SO TRUE!! I come from a family of three, as does my husband. All of our families fall into these categories to a ridiculous degree and I swore I wouldn't allow these roles to define our children. It absolutely does not happens regardless! I'm an eldest child married to a baby and I'm responsible and driven and he's lazy and entitled. He has more friends than anyone I've ever met and he's always the life of the party. I, on the other hand, have zero friends. Not a single one. My oldest son is like a mini-me, my middle daughter is seriously the sweetest, most loving, compatible person, and my youngest...I've nicknamed "honeybadger", because honeybadger just don't give a s#*%.

irish... irishrose13

I'd say this is pretty true of my only.  She's responsible although immature for her age and a high achiever almost to the point of perfection, but she can be a loner at times although she's a social butterfly in most situations.  My only does tend to be entitled.

Robin Hartman

I have 3 kids and this is all wrong in every way!

Traci... Traci_Momof2

I've always thought that birth order does have an effect on personality, but like everything it is not absolute.

My best friend is the youngest of two boys.  His mom was the oldest of 5 girls.  When his mom was young, she was put in charge of all of her younger sisters.  She was made to be more of a parent than the actual parents.  She hated it.  So when she had her two boys she swung the pendulum to the other extreme.  The oldest was allowed to get away with everything and the youngest (my bf) was the one given all the responsibility and hard work.  Now as adults, it's the oldest who has messed up his life over and over again while the youngest (my bf) is responsible and making something of himself.

I am raising two boys myself and to a certain extent they do fall into the categories in the article.  However, I try to be mindful and not put all the responsibility on the oldest and give more to the youngest, but not to the extreme.  In parenting it's about finding that middle ground.

nonmember avatar MommyOf_2

Idk I only believe part of this. I am the middle child and got the least attention but is most responsible. For example my older brother was quiet, shy, intelegent, not many friends tell he got older and now is dependent on others. Then Me, Im outgoing, sociable, was always in trouble as a kid and has 2 kids, Then my little brother was the "golden child" got whatever he wanted, no responsibites, failed in school but is the most successful

Seems everyone and every family is different. I strongly believE the area you raise your children in playes a big part also

Krystian Kaufold

I don't know how well I believe this. 

I'm the middle child, and pretty mature, and level headed, when I'm not in one of my mood flares. I can be the life of the party. Maybe it's because I'm the only one with children. 

But my brother, has messed up so many times. 

And my younger brother, yeah no he is a debbie downer, and brings the party down...

So this is not always true.

Kimdom Kimdom

True in my case but not my firstborn. He's still living at home at age 38. No job, no family, just is happy with his birth family. No ambition at all but the nicest guy.

Laura Palmer

The middle child is the peace maker????? Are you high? Have you ever heard of middle child syndrome?

Rhodin Rhodin

Maybe it's because my oldest has autism, but I swear my youngest acts like the big sister.  YDD wants to be like me and ODD couldn't care less, as far as I can tell.

Kimdom Kimdom

Maybe but my middle sister moved away and disowned the rest of her family. Haven't heard from her in years. Been trying to find her. She's in texes somewhere.

1-10 of 17 comments 12 Last