10 Ways to Ensure Your Kids Live With You Forever

Last week, I offhandedly remarked to Evan that he could do something or other once he lived in his own house. He looked at me with horror. "Mommy!!! But I'm going to live with you forever," he informed me. I laughed but later realized it wasn't all that funny.

I love my kids with all my heart, but by the time they've graduated college, I look forward to loving them while they reside on their own. You know, so I can go into their homes and barge into the bathrooms and eat all of the food they bought for themselves. That's something to look forward to!

But I can't argue with his thinking; other than my habit of yelling too much, living under my roof is pretty damn nice for them. Perhaps too nice. Come to think of it, it's almost like I'm asking them never to leave.

Does having your children live with you forever sound like a future you'd like? Want to avoid the empty nest syndrome altogether? You can pretty much guarantee it by doing the following ...

1. Cook them whatever they want. The same meal for everyone in the family? No way! Ask each child what he or she feels like eating and that is what they shall eat. For all three meals, of course.

2. Clean up after them. Those toys they love to dump out so much? They're only fun to dump out when they've been cleaned up and organized. Make sure to do that nightly.

3. Let them control the TV. There's nothing you really care about watching, anyway.

4. Never ask them to use their manners at home. Manners are for outside of the house. In the comfort of the home, let them put their feet up and chill out. Even at the dinner table.

5. Don't enforce bedtimes or limit electronics. Rules, schmules!

6. Give them money. I'm not talking an allowance. No chores, no responsibilities. Just give them the money like it grows on trees!

7. Rub their backs at bedtime. And don't leave until they're fast asleep.

8. Buy them everything their hearts desire. Not just for their birthdays and Christmas or Hanukkah. All year round. 

9. Make their beds every morning. Who doesn't love climbing into a perfectly made bed every night?

10. Tell them they're the most amazing and wonderful creatures to ever walk the Earth. Which, of course, they are.

Why on Earth would they ever leave?


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MyNam... MyNameIs-

My dd wants to live with me forever, she also wants to marry her daddy (or her sister), have a house with two bunnies, a cat, a dog and a dinosaur. And when she grows up, she's going to be an astronaut firefighter. I told her, go for it! She's fiercely independent so I have no reason that she'll come to her senses someday. But your suggestions are good, I'm not going to coddle her and do everything for her. That way, when she eventually decides to move out, she'll be able to take care of herself.

2cent... 2centsCDN

My 10 year old informed me the other day that she was going to live with me forever. She actually cried when I said she couldn't...until I explained that her older brother has already promised me a wing of his house (because he's going to be rich eyeroll.). Now she's going to build me one too.

In all seriousness though, I don't want boomerang kids. I want my kids to be responsible adults and live their own lives. I'll know I've done something wrong if they're still livinng with me in their 20's.

Traci... Traci_Momof2

Whew!  I'm good.  I don't do a single one of those things.

Vegas... Vegas0036

When I was little, I told my mom I wanted to have six boys and live with her forever.  And Ever AND EVER!  And I was going to be a princess who could talk to animals and make soap from nothing just wishing it into my hands. (don't ask)

I then moved out at 18.  And I have ONE boy - and he is absolutely ENOUGH! 

But if you ask my mom, I still sometimes act like a princess.  LOL

nonmember avatar danielleapril

im pretty sure my exs mother followed all of these suggestions. my ex (28) and his sister (32) still live with her and she still does all of these for them. her daughter.cant even make phone calls herself, her mother calls her into work and does all her appts...its ridiculous

adamat34 adamat34

I dont know if doing some of these things guarentee that this will happen. I like to do things for my boys like make their beds .....the money thing is a no no...Kids needs a little extra love sometimes...they should be able to count on their parents for some of these things....

annam... annamerri91

Haha I can now name two people that there children will live with them forever!

Rosas... RosasMummy

I do 2,3 and 10 completely and 1,5,7,8 and 9 to some extent. My daughter is 3, I love her, she is awesome and loving your kids does not spoil them.

brjda... brjdaniels

According to my 4 year old he is going to marry me and he always tells me im his beautiful girl.

nonmember avatar don

This article should be titled:
10 ways to ensure your kids live with you forever if they don't end up in prison.
This list sounds like a sure-fire way to raise spoiled, entitled little brats that think the world owe them whatever they want. After all, like the article says "Rules, schmules!"
The saddest part is that I know some people are actually reading this article because they want their kids to live with them forever.

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