Newsflash for Oprah Winfrey: Good Moms Can Work Too!

Dear Oprah,

First of all, I would like to thank you for the “you get a car! And you get a car!” meme. I try to inject it into conversations whenever possible, and while my kids think I’m kind of nuts, it makes me smile every time. It helps in motherhood to have little things that perk you up.

Speaking of being a mom … I’d like to address your recent comments about why you chose not to raise children. You told The Hollywood Reporter, "If I had kids, my kids would hate me. They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would've probably been them."


You continued:

"Gayle [now a mother of two] was the kind of kid who, in seventh grade home ec class, was writing down her name and the names of her children … While she was having those kind of daydreams, I was having daydreams about how I could be Martin Luther King."

Oh Honey, that’s so precious that you think that being a successful talk show host is on par with Martin Luther King Jr.’s achievements. No denying that you’ve done a lot of good for a lot of people, but you hardly led the Civil Rights Movement.

Anyway, back to this whole motherhood thing. Why do you think that women can’t be successful and have children at the same time? Are my children suffering because I’m a single working mom? Or is that reserved only for moms at the top of their fields?

How do you explain Angelina Jolie, Michelle Obama, Katie Couric, Gisele Bundchen, or even Sacagawea, the Shoshone interpreter that accompanied Lewis and Clark on their expedition with a baby strapped to her chest? Are they bad mothers?

I think those women missed the memo that they had to choose between motherhood and ambition. I certainly missed the memo.

In a way, I have to commend you for making the decision that you did, since you knew that you were too selfish to shuffle things around to make being a working mom work. You knew that your kids would always come second to what you wanted for your life.

Oh Oprah, only you can take something like being too selfish to have children and turn it into a selfless virtue.


An Insulted Mother

Were you insulted by Oprah's claim that her kids would've suffered if she'd decided to be a mother?


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