An Open Letter to the Parents of the Girl Who Gave My Kid Lice

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liceHi there,

Lice sucks. This is something I know you know because, hey, guess what? It turns out your kid had it TWO weeks prior to the fourth-grade outbreak that struck every girl in the class (including my kid). I found this out thanks to another parent (whose daughter ALSO had lice). Not from you.

Look, we all know lice is gross. Lice is embarrassing. It took us $750 out of pocket and a lot of stress and tears to make sure that everyone else in our family was lice-free and to rid my daughter of every single nit and bug. One thing they told me: Her case was two weeks old. No one else in our family had contracted it, which implies that it was very new, which coincides to right around the time that your child had her super top secret case.

Lice is no fun. But it's especially no fun when we aren't told that our children have been exposed. Suck it up. Do what the rest of us did and tell the teacher.

Lice isn't cancer (thank goodness) and it's not life threatening. It's not even really something that hurts children (other than trauma), but it's GROSS and highly communicable and our best line of defense is to be open with one another.

More from The Stir: 6 Ways to Prevent Your Child From Getting Lice Now

So what gives? You just thought you wouldn't have to tell? Thought you might get away with no spread? Well guess what? You actually helped to infect a number of children who may not have been infected with your silence.

It's too late for apologies now, but it would be super awesome if, in the future, all parents lose the embarrassment. It's gross, yes. But it's not the end of the world. More than anything it was an expensive nuisance that involved multiple trips to the professional delousers and frequent loads of laundry. All of this could have been avoided if you had simply done the right thing. But nope. That was too much to ask.

Still, when all of us other parents were sharing our stories and helping one another, it might have been nice if you -- the PARENT OF PATIENT ZERO -- might have chimed in. But oh no. You still didn't.

So fine. But I just wanted to thank you for the opportunity to face one of the things I had been dreading most about my children's childhoods. Now, I no longer have to wonder when we are getting lice for the first time. Because we have had it. Thanks to you.

Mind if I send you the bill?


An annoyed parent

Has your kid had lice? Did you tell the school?


Image via Eran Finkle/Flickr

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nonmember avatar NoWay

Wow! Way to make a big deal out of nothing. Yes, lice is gross, but I don't understand how it cost you $750 ... BOTH of my kids got lice at the same time. I bought the shampoo (maybe $15), vacuumed the heck out of everything, washed all of our bedding. And bought a lice spray to spray the beds and such. For good measure, since I have boys, I also gave them a buzz cutt. It could not have cost more than $75 ... and that includes the extra gas I had to use to go pick them up at school and the trip to the laundry mat to wash the big blankets. Stop being such a cry baby!

nonmember avatar Michelle

why in the world did you need to spend $750 to get rid of lice??? i remember having it as a kid, no one else in the house got it, and all that was spent was money on the shampoo.

Einyn Einyn

Since when does it cost $750 to remove lice? I spent hours with a nit comb and 2 $10 bottles of lice killers.

Krystian Kaufold

Einyn, I wanna know the same damn thing. 

jec72579 jec72579

Oh My Goodness, I thought that only happened to my son!!! His entire class had lice when he was in kindergarten, turns out there was one kid who brought it into the classroom. The parents never said a word!!!! Even after the 2nd kid got it, HIS parents did the right thing and called the school, and the letter went home. Even when we all checked our kids, to find that they ALL had it.

What happened to common courtesy ? Being a parent is a messy job, and if telling other parents that your kid has lice is SO BAD that you just can't do it, maybe you should have thought twice. Because head lice is the easy part. The teenage years are coming. Good luck with that.

Oh - and Ellyn, did you not clean and scour your house, kid's bedroom, car, EVERY single thing he had touched in the last week? Bedding needs to be tossed, new ones bought. It may not cost $750, but it certainly costs more than just a comb and $20 lice shampoo.

Fairy... Fairywings1223

Bedding does not need to be tossed. You just need ti wash with hot water and dry. My kids had it and we got rid of it with olive oil.

Fairy... Fairywings1223

Sorry also wash and vacuum everything. Its not that hard just takes a long time.

jrphelps jrphelps

1st of all that sucks.  But I have NEVER once heard of someone spending $750 to get rid of lice!  Even if multiple children have it.  But then again, this IS The Stir where everything is exaggerated!

dearg76 dearg76

Seriously??? Bedding does not have to be replaced!! Neither does stuffed animals, carpets, curtains or anything else that is normally found in the house. I had lice multiple times as a kid. Never did my mom have to replace anything.

MamaD... MamaDV1012

Lice sucks yea, but it doesn't cost that much to get rid of.  Overreaction.  And now I'm scratching my head, ha!

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