Dad Punishes 10-Year-Old By Chopping Off Her Hair

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scissorsA stepfather is in jail for assault after a wicked fight with his wife and kids that started over how he disciplined his young stepdaughter. Cops say Jason Lloyd Hartwick got angry with the 10-year-old, so he give her a haircut as punishment. No wonder his wife got angry!

When it comes to disciplining kids, there are simply lines that you do not cross. Anything that demeans a child or is a direct attack on their identity is a big no-no!

Think about it: there aren't many things kids can really claim as "their own" in life. They live in homes provided by their parents. They have to go to bed when we say, go to school when we say, and in general be bossed around by people who are bigger and older than them.

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But their appearance? For the most part, that's on them, and it's a very large part of who they are now and who they are becoming. That includes hair.

I've long been a supporter of kids being allowed to rock "crazy" hairstyles in school because it's a pretty harmless way of allowing them to experiment with their appearance, to figure out who they are. It also lets them know that they have ultimate control over how they choose to let people see them.

The hair we wear is part of how we portray ourselves to the world and a real mark of our personalities.

Can you imagine taking either away from a kid?

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I can't. I'm all for taking away video game consoles or sending kids to their room to think about their actions -- naughty kids must be punished. Considering parents generally pay for the aforementioned game consoles or the mortgage on the house where that room is located, that's in a parent's purview to do. But their hair isn't yours. It's theirs.

Cutting a kid's hair because you're angry isn't punishment. It's just plain cruel.

Hartwick, by the way, is in jail facing charges of aggravated assault and preventing the use of a phone in an emergency for the alleged altercation that broke out after the haircut.

Put yourself in that dad's shoes. What would you have done?

 

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SaphireH SaphireH

i love how it doesnt state here what she did in order for him to go a****le

nonmember avatar NoWay

@SaphireH ... it didn't state it in the linked article, either. But it doesn't matter ... there is no excuse.

Einyn Einyn

When we were kids my friend made nonstop fun of her sister when the sister got lice and had to have her head shaved to finally rid her of it. My friend's step dad then shaved her head as a punishment for the bullying. I think that was justified and my friend laughs about it now. We were also ten. Nobody was scarred for life either.

othermom othermom

In most situations I don't think it is okay. But there would be a few reasons I would. I shave my sons head because he won't care for it when it is longer and I have told my older daughter I would cut her hair too if she didn't care for it like she should

nonmember avatar april

What was the punishment for? I've lopped off my daughter's hair after multiple fights with her to comb it. And then when I finally do it, it's a 30 minute battle with us both in tears by the end. You can damn well bet Im chopping it off instead of dealing with it

PRIMA487 PRIMA487

Wow ! Getting a bit overworked over your progeny's heads! But this guy was a step parent and has no right to touch her,to say nothing about him trying to interrupt a 911 call another was making to report the abuse of the mom,which is why he was arrested.

adopt... adoption2013

There is no excuse.  If a man did this to his wife he'd be in jail.  This was meant to humilate and degrade her.   It is psychological torture.   If anyone believes that this was appropriate for any reason I would suggest that they attend counselling immediately as they are probably abusing their kids.  Perhaps her bad behaviour stems from having an abusive stepfather.   This man is psychotic.  He is a wife beater and a childabuser.   The sad part is that mom will probably take him back.   I see this garbage all the time.   

adopt... adoption2013

There is no excuse.  If a man did this to his wife he'd be in jail.  This was meant to humilate and degrade her.   It is psychological torture.   If anyone believes that this was appropriate for any reason I would suggest that they attend counselling immediately as they are probably abusing their kids.  Perhaps her bad behaviour stems from having an abusive stepfather.   This man is psychotic.  He is a wife beater and a childabuser.   The sad part is that mom will probably take him back.   I see this garbage all the time.   

DeAnna Vestal

Saddly this is not an uncommon punishment, as a hairdresser I have had to try and "fix" punishment hair cuts. 

rjaffeux rjaffeux

Yes I agree it doesn't even state what she did to deserve it. I totally disagree about this being her idendity and you shouldn't be able to hurt it. OMG! really? Are we raising brats or children. We're supposed to be teaching what you look like doesn't matter. There are far worse things to have been done to her. why is it they get parents for ANY disipine...

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