6 Reasons We're All Being Too Wimpy About Parenthood These Days

You know how older folks -- like your parents, maybe -- sometimes have this obnoxious know-it-all attitude about parenting that's combined with a steadfast belief that everything related to raising kids was better back in their day? Well, I'm not proud to admit it, but in the last couple years, I feel like I've become more and more curmudgeonly about parenting trends, to the point where I'm certain it's only a matter of time until I too am like the cranks shouting about how child-rearing should be done uphill, in the snow. BOTH WAYS.

In fact, I'm going to go ahead and indulge my inner critic with this list of semi-recent parenting tactics I vigorously disapprove of.

(Do you agree with any of these? Or am I just becoming the crazy old lady shouting at kids to get off her damn lawn?)

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B1Bomber B1Bomber

I think the leashes are awesome. They were a lifesaver (or backsaver) for us when our first was old enough to walk but too short to hold our hands comfortably. It was even better when my second was born and my first was only 16 months old. You can only carry two kids for so long.

Lacy Berndt

I agree with ALL of these!

nonmember avatar Suzanne

My oldest is on the autism spectrum. He was a runner. If I was distracted for even a second he'd bolt.



Wearing a harness was an extremely simple measure to ensure he didn't get lost, or bolt into traffic.



Besides, who do you think is really leading who when an adult is tethered to a child?



So to all those that shoot nasty looks to parents who have their kid on a 'leash', trust that you may not have all the information needed to get all judgy on a random stranger.

Katha... Katharine205

I'm for the leashes too - my kid drove me nuts running off so in crowded areas I'd leash her little butt.  My mom had one for my brother too though so those aren't too modern.  There'se a definite wussification of our kids though, and while the cutsey dentist terms are great for my 5 year old (we'd have to strap her to the chair if she knew there was an actual needle involved) I think an 8 year old is capable of handling it.

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

I'm for leashes too. My child is not a runner and listens well. It's for his safety from others. It is a huge deterant to would be kidnappers. And when I'm in a very crowded place, well worth it to me.

the4m... the4mutts

I agree 100%!

Though I have to admit that I leashed 2 of my kids at a county fair once. And I mean leashes. I stuck dog leashes to their belt loops lol

work4... work4mickey

I take the bus. I used the "kid leashes" pretty much as soon as they could walk so that I could ditch the stroller. Young kids (under 3) often don't listen, and refuse to understand why it is necessary to listen. I see many parents deal with this by keeping their kids in strollers. A leash allows your child a larger degree of freedom than a stroller or hand holding. It let's them explore while keeping them within a safe proximity. It also helps to ensure that they walk and get exercise, rather than sit in a stroller all day (often with a snack to keep them pacified).

I agree that leashes should be gone before a childs fourth birthday (in the absence of behavioral or developmental issues) and they should not be on it all the time (let them go on the playground).

nonmember avatar Kay

Now, to be fair, the orange slices were at half-time, and we often got capri-suns or even sodas after the game! But yes, the movie thing I completely agree with.

nonmember avatar april

Love the leashes. It's handy for when you can't carry them, cant use a stroller and need your hands. Mine weren't really runners, and listened pretty well, but I liked them for really busy areas. As for everything else, I agree totally. And snacks have taken over EVERYTHING. you need a snack after breakfast, one after lunch, one after you get out of school and then a bed time snack. I don't get it? I discourage most snacking in our home, but if the kids do need one, they are limited to fruit, raw veggies or something like yogurt or cottage cheese. Most of the time, they decide they weren't so hungry after all when they can't have candy or chips for a snack :P

ashjo85 ashjo85

I can see the practicality of the leashes too, but still....my husband and I just feel a little slimy leashing up our children. I'm NOT judging anyone who does it, I can see where it would be a useful thing in a crowded place. Just didn't feel right to us. Teaching them to hold on to your hand and not run off are also important skills that they aren't forced to learn if they're leashed.

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