Jon & Kate Gosselin Need to Get on the Same Page With Their Parenting Styles (VIDEO)

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Jon Gosselin

For such a supposedly private guy, Jon Gosselin can't seem to stay out of the news lately. First, he told Entertainment Tonight how he works as a waiter at a local cafe. Then he shot at a photographer. Now he decided tell Oprah Winfrey (and thus the world) about his non-existent relationship with his ex-wife, Kate. Despite the fact that the two share custody of their eight children, Jon says he hardly has any communication with Kate at all. He told Oprah:

I don't really know what goes on in Kate's house, and she really doesn't know what goes on in my house. There is no cooperation.

And yikes, that's not the end of it!

He also revealed on Oprah's Next Chapter that he and Kate have completely opposite parenting styles, saying:

We're just moving in totally different directions, just totally not on the same page at all about anything ... We have two different totally parenting styles, two different totally everythings. Which is a shame. Because it affects me. But it really affects my children.

Hmm. Let me guess. Their different parenting styles might include Jon being totally cool with having a gun around the kids, and Kate not so cool with it? And then there's Jon not paying any child support. Even a cursory glance at their old reality show would have told you that Jon was the lax one; Kate the taskmaster.

While I think it's great that these two, who seem so polar opposite it's astonishing they ever managed to procreate in the first place, still both have relationships with their kids -- and Kate says she is adamant about "fostering" the children's relationship with Jon -- wouldn't it be awesome if they could reach a point of being consistent with each other in their parenting styles?

Above all things, kids crave stability, consistency, routine, and a sense of safety. Jon even said their different styles were affecting the kids.

These two have gone through so much together and the divorce was fairly bitter. Still, it does seem like they at least agree that they love their kids and are able to be civil with each other -- at least by text message, which is apparently the only way they communicate.

But wouldn't it be something if they could learn to put their differences aside, and come together and have their kids at least see them in the same room together occasionally?

Do you think these two will ever be on the same page?

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Luv.M... Luv.My.Kidz

They will NEVER be on the same page. The kids have the stabilty with Kate (as much as I hate to admit that)... Being the "lax" parent isn't always the right way to go. Having schedules, knowing the rules, and following them is very very important to kids. I had that issue with my kids sperm donors. They would be the "cool" parent and it was actually worse for the kids than me having my boys follow the rules, expectations, etc. 

Coles... Coles_mom

Parenting styles? Jon doesn't seem to have a style. He doesn't seem to have anything...most of all a clue. He seems to just want the bare minimum in life. Kate -while abrasive - is the one 100% supporting those kids. He needs to just go away and let her raise her family.

Dkaria Moo

Both parents need to lose custody. Let someone who actually likes kids and has a grip on reality raise them...

Brooke Lynn Sieczkowski

Everyone is so quick to jump on the KAte bandwagon. I'm not saying he's right by any means. I'm saying we don't live in their world so there's no reason to automatically assume he's a horrible parent. People could say the same about ANYONE. You see someone in the store disheveled, and letting her kids run wild, she's either the worst mom ever or a mom who's just dealing with a hard time. If you don't know what's going on in their life, please, don't judge. I know they are putting it all out there and all but you have no idea what happens when the cameras are off, no one is interviewing them and they are in the "privacy" of their own home.
Sorry I'm ranting.... this is just all too common. Isn't being a parent hard enough without judgement from all sides?

Kimberlee Haas-Kenyon

I wholeheartedly agree with you, Brooke Lynn!  Maybe they only communicate through text message to ensure no one can say the other one verbally said something wrong.  The few times I watched the show, I felt sorry for Jon.  She always seemed to be bitching at him.  However I know from my own marriage, you can never truly know what goes on behind closed doors. So maybe he did deserve it and maybe not.  In any case, it's not my life so it doesn't matter to me who is the better parent to these children.

Kimberlee Haas-Kenyon

I wholeheartedly agree with you, Brooke Lynn!  Maybe they only communicate through text message to ensure no one can say the other one verbally said something wrong.  The few times I watched the show, I felt sorry for Jon.  She always seemed to be bitching at him.  However I know from my own marriage, you can never truly know what goes on behind closed doors. So maybe he did deserve it and maybe not.  In any case, it's not my life so it doesn't matter to me who is the better parent to these children.

Avarah Avarah

Parallel parenting is the standard in high conflict divorces. There's not a lot of room in the narcissist to care about others, even their own children. Unfortunately, these kids got a matched set for parents.

kerij... kerijeanbean

They will never have the same parenting style.  I only watch a couple of episodes, but even with that I could see that Kate was way to strict and uptight about everything and Jon was a little to laid back.  While Jon might learn to be a a better parent, and make some rules and stick with them, I don't think Kate will ever relax.


 

monke... monkeymom1104

They have shared custody, 50/50 correct? Why then would he pay child support? Also Kate is making enough money by exploiting her children; if anything Jon should get child alimony.

monke... monkeymom1104

Omit the word child..lol(

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