Grandpa, School & Doctor Mix Up One Child With Another & No One Notices?!

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grandchildSo the other day when I went to pick up my son from the bus stop, lo and behold, he did not get off the bus. I called the school right away and found out that he was still there and had not been kidnapped by the circus (phew), but thanks to this misunderstanding, I now had to go and pick him up. That was a little stressful, but after reading this story,  it's quite clear how minor this little incident was. Here is a grandfather who picked up the wrong little girl from school, took her to the doctor, and sent her home with medication. THE WRONG KID ALL THE WAY.

How many childcare fails do you need for this to happen? It's like none of the adults in this story had ever laid eyes on the child.

1. Grandpa picks up the wrong kid. Scary, but understandable. Perhaps he has dementia -- he's in his 70s. Maybe he's hiding his degenerative state, or maybe the girl's parents know but are desperate for childcare.

2. School administrators/teachers let her go. So Grandpa shows up to take his granddaughter to the doctor, and the staff brings him the wrong child. To be fair, the two girls had the same name and were in the same grade. But still, if you're excusing a kid from your class to go off with another adult, don't you think it would behoove you to make sure you're not sending off the wrong Sally? The poor girl, whose parents say she's shy, was terribly confused and couldn't bring herself to speak up and ask why a stranger was taking her to the doctor when she wasn't sick.

3. The doctor treated the wrong kid. Does your child's pediatrician recognize your child? My doctor's practice is large, and we only go for checkups once a year. I don't think our pediatrician would recognize my son. Still, this little girl was handed medication (I don't think she'd actually taken it). How did that even happen? Were the meds based on her exam -- the exam of an otherwise perfectly well child? WTF?

So imagine what happens when this little girl comes home and informs her parents that some old guy picked her up, took her to a doctor, and gave her this medicine here in this bag. You would freak the eff out, right? The girl's father said:

I went ballistic. I was boiling inside. The first thing I thought was the worst. I had to ask my daughter the sort of questions no parent ever wants to ask: 'Did he do this, did he do that?'

Ugh, I can just imagine. What a mess. At least she hadn't actually taken the meds yet.

Meanwhile, the school administration is investigating the incident so they can find out how this happened. "I have also spoken with the mother of this child to offer our sincere apologies over this regrettable incident and to assure her that we are reviewing all our safeguarding policies – with the help of the council – to ensure this never happens again," says head teacher Zerina Slade.

Anyway, maybe this is a good time for all to re-think our safety measures. Is there more than one kid with your child's name in the classroom? Who do you talk to when your child has a doctor's appointment? Have you had that important conversation with your child -- the one that goes something like, "If a strange old man says he's supposed to take you to the doctor, please, say NO"? This poor little girl must have had one terribly confusing day.

Can you imagine this ever happening to your child?


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kelti... kelticmom

While it's horrible that no one noticed this was the wrong kid, why didn't the child say something when an old man who she doesn't know picked her up? Either to her teacher or the doctor? And the medicine she was given was just liquid Paracetamol which is liquid Tylenol here in the States. So the doctor was porbably just going off the symptoms that the grandfather provide. Probably headache or low grade temp.

schlis schlis

WHAT?!?! This doesn't make since. Where did the other little girl go? Obviously no one picked her up.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I cannot understand how this happened?? How in the hell did the grandfather pick up the wrong child??? If he has dementia, blind or whatever then the parents are fools for letting him take responsibility for their child. Our clinics have a picture in the computer of our kids and the parents or child are asked their full name, a chart is flagged if the hospital system has a patient with the same first and last name, they are asked middle name AND if that is the same then the address is asked. This was stupid on so many levels.

Jackie Courtney Leoncavallo

My daughter's school CHECKS ID'S AT PICKUP. Even after they know you, know which kid is yours, they still check them! My husband has only picked her up TWICE because they didn't know him and he said they made him feel like a pedophile, asking other teachers if anyone recognized him and not letting my daughter out the door until they confirmed his name was on the pickup list. They've known me for two months and they still look at my ID! Sure, it may seem over the top, but it's better than this situation here where some stranger takes a kid he's not related to!

Vicki Schellenger Martin

My daughter has a very common name, last name Martin, so you can just imagine. I kept getting phone calls with test results about another girl named Martin, but different BD. I told them more than once it was not her. I finally complained to my sister who happened to work their as not only HR assistant but accountant as well. When I asked them about my daughter's records, they has misplaced the file...

Panda... PandaPop83

At my kids' schools it's easy to get a child mixed up. Parents aren't allowed to walk up to the classrooms and pick up their child. We have to drive up to a designated area to pick up our kids. But beside that, I could never get the wrong kid. I'd be an idiot if I didn't know what my daughters look like. My mother in law would probably pick up the wrong child because she's rarely around. She mixes up all of her grandkids and she only has 6. As for the doctors, they have my ID and my husband's ID in our childrens' files. They don't have identification for our children though. Only parents are allowed to bring in their kids, so I guess they assume that a parent knows who they're bringing in.

IHear... IHeartCake

Seriously, not only were there two girls in the same grade with the same name but they looked so similar that the grandpa couldn't tell the difference?  It's definitely not the Pediatrician's fault, but the school and the grandpa have a lot of explaining to do. I am speechless. 

Happy... HappyMomma2002

It doesn't matter what the child's name was. It doesn't say whether or not an ID was checked in the office. Why didn't the little girl speak up and say, "Hey! That's so NOT my grandpa?" I mean, really.

Mommy... MommyO2-6631

how old was the kid?? seriously, why didn't she say something, like, umm... you aren't my grandpa?!

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