I'm Ready to Have the 'Sex Talk' With My 7-Year-Old

birds and the beesAs much as I've tried to ward off having the discussion with my 7-year-old, it seems to be getting harder and harder to skirt around the subject of where babies come from with him.

At least once a week or so, I'm met with one of the following questions:

"How does a baby get in your belly?"

"How do you 'make' a baby?"

"I know that the stork is fake, Mom -- so how does the baby come out of your belly once it's in there?"

Maybe it's because he's in second grade and is smart enough to realize birds don't drop babies on doorsteps. Or maybe it's because he's addicted to Full House reruns and has seen the episode where Aunt Becky delivers the twins about a zillion times and realizes she's pushing the babies out of her body somehow.

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Whatever the case, his inquiring little mind wants to know all about the birds and the bees. I think I might be at a point where I'm ready to have "the talk" with him.

I didn't expect to have this conversation until he was at least 11 or 12, because that's about when my mom had it with me. But it's clear that as time goes on, it's getting more difficult to change the subject whenever he brings it up. I might have to just break down and give it to him straight.

And I know -- 7 seems awfully young to learn about sex, babies, and everything in between. But I actually think he might be mature enough to handle the truth, and if I'm going to have this talk, I don't want to dumb things down for him or lie about any aspect of the whole deal.

But here's what I'm afraid of (and no, I'm actually not worried about the look on his face after I give him the run down of the entire process): I'm terrified that if I do tell him, he'll proceed to inform all of his friends at school about how babies are made. Then their parents will freak out and absolutely hate me and deem me to be the most irresponsible parent on the face of the earth.

However, the longer I wait and keep telling him that we'll have the conversation "another time," the more he's going to press the issue and the greater his curiosity will grow. Then I worry that he'll wind up asking his friends at school, and one of them will have already had the talk with their parents and will fill him in, which would really suck.

So ... what the heck am I supposed to do? Is he still too young to hear this stuff -- or should I just get it out of the way and explain it all to him before someone else has the chance to? I'm thinking the latter -- but what if I'm wrong and he really isn't as ready as I think he is?

Sometimes this parenting thing is kinda hard.

Have you talked to your kids about the birds and the bees yet?

 

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