8 Weirdest Playdate Demands Parents Have Made

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playdateOh, playdates, how do I love thee. You're about as close to free babysitting as a mama can get. But not every playdate is created equal, something I'm learning as my daughter branches out beyond the children of friends. Some parents, it seems, are awfully demanding about what goes on at your house.

And by demanding, I don't mean asking you to follow allergy protocols (that's pretty normal) or keep your language clean (come on, parents!). I mean there are parents out there who want you to change your whole life, for their kid.

Haven't had this happen yet? Consider yourself lucky, because parents were more than willing to share some of the oddest requests they've gotten from parents before a playdate, and they're truly bizarre:

1. My son has a friend whose parents don't allow their child to be exposed to any violence at all, which is understandable. I'm not letting my kid watch violent TV either! But they requested that he not be allowed to play tag at my house because it's too violent. Come on!

2. My daughter wanted to have a friend over, and I said I'd talk to her parents. The parents demanded I turn off my WiFi so their kid wouldn't be exposed to radiation.

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3. "A friend rings me up and tells me that her [daughter] had a friend over ... family is vegetarian. But she tells me that the parents came to pick up the kid and they flipped out when they heard from their DD that the family had served sausages and eggs for breakfast. Their DD had fruit and cereal and eggs. No one even offered her meat. The dad told her that he thought is was very rude and inconsiderate of her to eat meat in front of their kid."

4. My daughter's friend's parents have a rule that no adult is allowed to use a cellphone in front of their child, and when my daughter wanted her to come over to our house, the parents expected me to comply. I did for my daughter's sake, but I think it's a little ridiculous. 

5. I know a mom who refuses to tell her kid "no." And she expects the parents of her kid's friends not to say it either!

6. I won't let my daughter eat yogurt at other kid's houses because it's always full of sugar. It might as well be ice cream. I guess other parents are less controlling than me.

7. My daughter's friend lives in a TV-free home, which is cool, I guess. But when they found out I was watching TV while the kids were playing -- in another room, I might add -- the mom flipped out. I think I should be allowed to watch TV in my own house!

8. When I called the mom of my daughter's friend to ask if she could come over, the mom asked if her younger daughter could come. Thinking she was asking if the little girl could tag along, I said "yes." The more the merrier, right? It turns out the mom was sending the younger sister instead! Apparently the little girl is jealous that her big sister has playdates and she doesn't. I felt bad, but the little girl is four years younger than my daughter, and they aren't friends! She really wanted to play with HER friend. It was like a bait and switch.

What's the strangest playdate request you've received?


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Jespren Jespren

While I do under the 'oookay let me think about that...um, no' line of things (except #6, dietary restrictions for any reason don't seem weird to me), honestly #8 is the most bizare to me. So far (eldest only 5) I haven't had any weird requests, but then our circle is rather small.

Coles... Coles_mom

I always ask if the other family has guns in the house. If they say yes, I say, "no thanks" and walk to other way. I'm very anti-gun.

the4m... the4mutts

Wow, how stupid! I've been lucky, my kids have made friends with really cool kids, who's parents are pretty reasonable.

I just send whichever kid is going to a friend's house with their cellphone (my 3 youngest share an emergency phone) and tell them that if anyone hurts them on purpose, or makes them uncomfortable, to call me and I will come get them.

The only rules I have, are;

that any real weapons like guns, knives, bows, etc, are not accessible to kids while mine are there,

and that my kids arent allowed to play in the street.

Shannon Elysabeth Mundorff

I'm pro gun ^ but since I do not know if YOU are responsible and have the gun put up safely, and the bullets put up seperately and safely, I am not trusting my child in a home where I know there is a gun. Too many accidents happen.

MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

Play dates are so freaking stupid! My kids go outside and play with the neighborhood kids. No need to micromanage your kids play.

Sarah... SarahHall58

My poor kid will probably end up playing alone because I refuse to accommodate crazy people. I do that enough at work.

Bmabes Bmabes

Wow good for you Colesmom! I guess the children of law enforcement are out of luck when it comes to hanging out with your kid. Sure, those men and women are trusted with the lives and safety of every other citizen but your kid would absolutely suffer some horrible tragedy if they had the misfortune of being in any sort of proximity to a firearm. Idiot.

nonmember avatar Tracy

Hm. So. Those of you who are anti-gun (and I'm not saying I'm carrying a pistol right now, so cool off), did you know if your friends' parents had guns back in the day? Probably not. Did they have kitchen knives? A bottle of wine on the counter from which your kid might take a nip? A big enthusiastic dog? A stove that gets hot when you turn it on? A pool? A trampoline? Bicycles? Can kids ride in the car with the parents? Did you check the brakes to make sure they are new? Is their floor soft in case of a slip and fall? What about an unknown exposed nail? Do we have to give out tetanus shots at the door? Did your kid sneak a handful of cat food and puke? Best hide the cat kibble!

Maybe these kids could use a little exposure to the world so they understand what it's all about. Life isn't perfect, and we do our best to make our kids safe (and yes, I have a child) but there is a limit to what we can do that is not going overboard. This shit is ridiculous.

Like one poster said, just go play for god's sake and stop micromanaging your kids.

Taisie Taisie

I'm sorry Bmabes and Tracy, I have to respectfully disagree with you. I don't feel that there is anything wrong with refusing a play date because there are guns in the house. How is a parent to know for sure that the other parents keep their firearms responsibly? And when it comes to policeman and the like having guns in their home, have you not read on the net, or seen on the news how many times that hasn't worked out so well?

As parents, it is our formost responsibilty to keep our children as safe as we possibly can.

Liane... Lianetherider

I think there's an easy way to check on the gun safety in someone else's house: Ask to see the gun safe. If they don't have one, don't send your kid over there. Anyone who actually HAS a gun safe is going to use it, because those things are too expensive not to use, lol. We don't have a gun safe (yet), so we lock up the bullets separately from the weapons. We also don't have kids yet, so it's a non-issue.

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