Woman Finally Finds Her Son & He Wasn't At All Who She Expected (VIDEO)

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Sometimes, you just know you're a mom. Usually, it happens at the moment of birth. Sometimes, it happens when you first meet your adopted child. Sometimes, it takes a bit longer. It took social worker Connie Going 10 years to realize that 10-year-old Taylor Diaz was her son. But once she realized, that's all it took. Going had been trying to place Taylor, who had been taken from his drug-addicted parents when he was an infant, with a foster family. But due to behavioral problems, he was returned twice. But after seeing Taylor crying over the situation, she suddenly had an epiphany. Taylor was HERS!

Taylor and his two siblings were originally placed in a foster family arranged by Going. But his issues were too much for the family, who eventually returned him to foster care.

He was then placed with a second family, but that one too didn't pan out. Says Going:

All I could think about was how he was feeling and how he was blaming himself, again.

Taylor seems to have some perspective on his situation now, too, saying:

It was always somewhat my fault, but I didn't realize that, you know, when I was growing up.

Sometimes it can take awhile for your destiny to find you, or for you to realize something is your destiny. But it's never too late. And apparently these two were meant for each other.

After Going saw Taylor crying, she says:

You know that ache you get in your chest when your child is crying? I felt that. At that moment, he became my child.

So she stopped trying to find Taylor a home -- and adopted him!

Things didn't go totally smoothly at first. After Taylor threatened to run away, Going told him, "Taylor, I'm not sending you away."

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Hearing that his various testing methods weren't resulting in being abandoned again, Taylor said, "Yeah, this is where I belong. She knows my worst side and she still cares about me and still loves me."

It may have taken a decade but the two of them are now exactly where they were supposed to be. Together.

Isn't that amazing?

Has a child ever tested you?

 

Image via CBS News

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jalaz77 jalaz77

Good for her but I have to ask, does he have any contact with his siblings. If not that is sad. That family who gave him back should not of been able to keep the other kids. When you decide to be a mom you do it forever not when it's convenient for you. You shouldn't be able to adopt a second time if the first didn't work out, I am talking about giving a kid back type of situation. I have 4 kids and it isn't always perfect and there is no gurauntee to my kids being perfect.

Craft... CraftyJenna

I was wondering about his siblings too, I don't think people should be able to break kids up like that. 


 

nonmember avatar lauren

it is sad about his siblings, but as it is it's hard to keep groups of children together, especially older kids. if he was a problem child the courts took him out of the picture so that his siblings might find a home. sad it is, but it's also not fair for the siblings to be bounced from placement to placement.

nonmember avatar TDDos

That is a good question to consider, but first things first. Taylor needs to "fix" himself and deal with his issues before he can fix a relationship with his siblings. Not to mention; should that be something he wants to do, he has the perfect mother to turn to for help with that; since she is the one who placed his siblings with the family that they are with now. Right now, this young man is doing exactly what he is supposed to be doing and that is enjoy feeling loved and being a child. All things happen in due time and right now he is working on being the best Taylor he can be.

nonmember avatar myopinion10

Wow am I the only that was confused by that? I first thought it was saying that she was the one who had given him up for adoption? I'm still confused after reading it a second time and confused by the comments? They were only fostering him not adopting. I'm just so confused :(

Jessica Smith

All I can say to the 2 first commentors is while I do agree with you he was not returned from adoption process it was from foster care. Without knowing the whole story we can't make a fair judgment to the foster families that gave him up. He at that time may have posed a danger to his siblings. I have seen it happen. I do hope now that his life is stable he is able to have contact with them again.


  As so often happens in these stories we are getting a quick short version of it. I'd love to see the long version of it. I hope he continues to thrive in his home. 


 

Ranti... RantingSyko

As far as I know, siblings aren't supposed to be placed together anyway, they form a unit and don't let anyone else in, which includes those trying to help them.  They keep all their pain between them, so they're generally split up, though I find that rather cruel:\

Vamp Vamp

Nice story, I do hope he gets to see his siblings.


jalaz, did you see the articles on rehomings adopted kids...it is HORRIBLE!!

Sarah Jamison Schneider

I was so glad to read such an encouraging and joyful story this morning. There is one less orphan in the world and that makes my heart glad.

MomOwl MomOwl

I do hope he still has a realtionship of some kind with his sibblings. But you know, Taylor probably is ADHD/ASD. That can be hard to handle even for a BIO mom. That being said, I am so glad that Taylor has a forever home and is able to heal and get the help he needs.

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