Grandmother Blames Library for Letting 9-Year-Old Check Out Erotic Book

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library blamed erotic bookAn Indiana grandmother is furious after her 9-year-old grandson was allowed to check out Night Games by Crystal Jordan via self check-out at the library. The book, apparently, is a sexually explicit erotic novel and is wholly inappropriate for young children. That much is true. But the library was fairly unapologetic, telling the grandmother that it's her responsibility to keep her kids from reading that stuff.

The question: Was the library in the right? I am going with yes.

While I agree with the grandmother that it's disturbing -- and lord knows I would be bothered -- the library is right here. It's a public library, which means they can and should have a lot of books for people to choose from and some of those books may not be for children. See below:

The reality is, as parents or guardians, it's our job to protect our kids from what they see. It's one thing to keep things out of a school library, but even that is a slippery slope.

Some of my earliest "erotic" memories come from stealing books from my parents' friends and reading them. Obviously my parents didn't condone this, but hey, they should have kept a better eye on me, right?

We are parents. As parents it's OUR job and our job only to protect our kids. I am sorry for this grandmother. That is upsetting. But the library is right here. As a public library, their job is to make sure the public has access to books.

Hiding books from people isn't the job of the library, and much as I don't think a 9-year-old should be reading that stuff, at least he's reading, right? He's showing an avid interest in books! It's not all bad.

Do you think the library is at fault here?


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nonmember avatar Jez

When I was 9, I read a vampire novel that contained sex scenes, it wasn't an erotic novel but was still pretty graphic, I loved it and finished the series, there were 8 books, I read my first erotic novel when I was 11, it was being passed around school, it's not such a big deal, my mother didn't know these books existed, it didn't traumatize me, it didn't traumatize the 30 other girls in my class, it's not such a big deal.

CLM3345 CLM3345

Obviously the adults in his life. Software is extremely expensive and complicated. Since most libraries are run with city funds and donations, they would never be able to afford the software required to put age limits, etc on library cards and on each book.  It's very unreasonable to assume they should do that even if there were funds or someone to donate the software.

Tracey Plummer

It drives me crazy when people expect everyone else to parent their own kids. If grandma takes kids to the library, then grandma should damn well know what they are checking out. I guarantee my daughter shows me every book she wants BEFORE we check it out! It would have taken her ten seconds to look at what he had beforehand, but instead she wants to blame the library system for her own laziness and lack of responsibility. Sad.

Shandi80 Shandi80

While I agree with the fact that parents and guardians should be monitoring what their kids borrow from the library, I have to play devil's advocate here, and remind everyone that certain video games and movies require parental consent before purchasing...why should books be any different? Because they actually require use of the imagination?

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

Not the library's responsibility... not their problem. If your child cannot be trusted to check out appropriate materials, then they should not be allowed to do it on their own. Supervision is the parents responsibility, or in the case- grandparent.

nonmember avatar April

Unless he was dropped off at the library and left to check himself out, an adult was there when he got it. that adult should have paid attention to their own kid and not expect the rest of the world to parent him

nonmember avatar Kasey

I recall my young son grabbing some movies and brought Bad Santa over to me. He had no idea what it was, just saw the Santa part and thought it would be good! :) I saw it and said aw heck no! I review what my kiddo gets from the library. It's not difficult and it's called parenting.. apparently a new concept for some.

nonmember avatar T.M.

No, take responsibility for what your children/grandchildren pick up off the shelf and make sure it is age appropriate. Stop blaming other people for your failure (s)!

nonmember avatar Seanna

I am a librarian by profession, we are not here to parent your children. We collect materials for all ages groups. Also do not drop your kids off at the library, we are not free babysitters! The library is a public space and anyone has access to your children. So be smart and supervise your children in the library.

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