Sibling of Autistic Boy Makes Beautiful Tribute to His Big Brother (VIDEO)

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Spencer Timme Mitchel Timme"What's it like to have a brother with autism?" That's the question Spencer Timme is asked again and again and again. And so the 20-year-old has made a video to answer it. The video is six months old, but it's just gone viral in the past week, giving people a look at life for Spencer and brother Mitchel Timme.

Mitchel has autism. But the brothers are like any other set of siblings. They pick on each other. Laugh with each other. Hug each other.

This is what it's like to have a sibling with special needs.

They're just your sibling.

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Sure, they may be different from other kids, but when you grow up in the same house as a child, the way they are is what you know. It isn't until most kids leave the house and people start to tell them that their sibling is "different" that most kids even realize that their family is unique.

That's not just what I took away from the beautiful tribute video Spencer Timme made for Mitchel.

It's what I've seen from the outside looking into dozens of sibling relationships in which one (or more) of the children is classified as "special needs." It's what I experienced growing up in a family with a brother who had ADHD and a number of other diagnoses that technically qualified him for special education assistance.

My brother is a little different, but he's just my brother. He makes me laugh sometimes. He makes me cry sometimes. He makes me want to tear my hair out sometimes. But at the end of the day, we share the common bond of having grown up in the same house, having shared the same memories, the same bad jokes, the same tendency to burn the moment we catch a ray of sunlight. We are as different as night and day, but we are still brother and sister.

Our differences don't change that.

It would be remiss of me not to admit that kids with special needs siblings do have different experiences. Actress Holly Robinson Peete wrote an excellent children's book, My Brother Charlie, specifically to address the fact that it's not always easy being the neurotypical kid in a family where the parents have to devote so much time and focus to a sibling because of their diagnosis.

But at the end of the day, this is simply life for these kids. This is how their family operates. And the beauty of the relationship between kids like the Timmes is that a sibling has always known a sibling this way; they don't judge in ways that the outside world does. This, to them, IS "normal." It's the way it's supposed to be. And that's OK.

Take a look at Spencer's beautiful video about his brother:

What's the relationship between your kids like?

 

Image via Spencer Timme/YouTube

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Gina Gonzalez

that was so inspiring. thank you. I have 2 teens both 16 not twins only on the spectrum. they get along so well.

nonmember avatar Brianne

I do not have a sibling with autism but I have a 7 year old son with autism. Autistic people, children and adults, are truly amazing and intelligent beyond imagination. Your video was beautiful and you are an amazing person to see your brother as any other human. Don't ever change that because no autistic person ever deserves to be made to feel like they don't belong because they do and always will!!!

Kristi Soward Hilmoe

This is beautiful, I wish every autistic child could grow up with such love and support. What a relationship - I bet their mother is so proud of them <3

nonmember avatar MarkF

wow. the bond between you two is quite real. i think God placed you both there for eachother. and for our entertainment with that video. thank you for that!

there is an autistic kid in my church. you two plus he bring to mind my favorite line from the movie Green Street Hooligans:

"the best part wasn't knowing that your friends had your back; it was knowing that YOU had your FRIENDS' back."

thanks again.

Ashle... Ashley1113

I have two brothers with autism. This man says is wonderfully. My brothers drive me crazy, but I still laugh with then and hug them and I still love them. You know something else? I wouldn't change them for the world. I am still their older sister who would step in front of a bullet to protect them.

Nanoo... Nanooksmommy

Wow that video was amazing!! Thanks for sharing so I could watch it :)

Bridget Ward

I have two young kids with mild autism and ocassionally it is hard with their temperament but god has blessed me with them. So thank you for giving people a glimpse that they may be different in some ways but truly normal in every way that counts.

Sharon Meyer

Two awesome young men.

Margaret Garcia

Thank you so much you put a smile on my face but special in my heart. You are so blessed to have a angel on earth

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