Mom Confession: I Still Carry My 7-Year-Old Son

mom and sonAll right. I guess I'd better just go ahead and put this out there. My son is 7 years old, and on occasion, I still carry him. Yes, I'm aware that he's nearing the end of first grade and is perfectly capable of walking on his own. And yes, I know he's probably way too big to be carried, being that he weighs close to 50 pounds.

But even though he's too old, too heavy, and way too independent for me to cart him around in my arms like a baby -- I still do it.

That's right, ladies and gentlemen, I'm raising my very own Suri Cruise -- and I dig it.

Here's the thing -- my little guy is my only child (I'm on the one-and-done plan), so I know all too well that my cuddling days are numbered.

Any day now, he's going to be absolutely horrified at the thought of holding my hand, letting me hug and kiss him in public, or (gasp!) allowing me to pick him up, hold him close, and carry him around.

Having him in my arms is one of the last bits of "little kid" I'm ever going to have, so I figure I might as well savor it as long as he's willing to let it go on. And I should add that the majority of the time, he asks to be picked up -- not the other way around. He'll ask me to carry him upstairs for bedtime, or into the grocery store as we get out of the car, or after we've been walking around all day and his little legs need a rest.

And I know I probably need to go ahead and put a stop to it so he doesn't turn into a major mama's boy -- but the truth is, I'm just not sure I'm ready to let go. (Literally.) What if I start refusing him and hurt his feelings? Or what if I say no -- and then he never requests to be picked up again and it's all over in the blink of an eye? (Sniffle.)

Nope. I can't handle that. At least not yet.

Oh, and besides squeezing every extra hug out of this kid that I possibly can before he grows up -- carrying him does come with one other huge bonus. If nothing else, it helps keep my arms toned. Sure, I work out when I can, but a little extra upper body work can't hurt, right?

(Psst! Katie Holmes? Give me a call, girl. I'm the only one who "gets" you. We'll do lunch the next time I'm in the city.)

Do you still carry your kids?


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nonmember avatar Madeline

Is this supposed to make us think your a kind loving person and not the shallow self-righteous blogger you have depicted yourself as? Your son is probably feeling a bit needy since you take a few "Mommy vacations" a year. I did the same thing when my father had to work three jobs. I wanted him to carry me and hug me constantly.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I carry my seven year old when he needs it but he's too heavy to do it all the time. Last time I carried him was last week when I picked him up from the nurses office. I probably looked ridiculous given he's 50" tall and I'm 62" tall but I had him on my hip, his backpack on my shoulder, and a stroller in my other hand.

crick... cricketmk3

Poor kid. Another mommy that cannot make good decisions for their kid´s mental well being.. Just concerned about their own.

nonmember avatar Rory Gilmore

I do hate how you often write about how other women look, and I feel like you could be more supportive of women as a whole... however, I would never, ever say you are a bad mom or ever criticize your parenting skills. You obviously love your son and he obviously loves you back. I have twin boys, and I am well aware that they grow so, so fast, so when they're not busy being superheroes or doing boy things, I cherish my cuddle time. Enjoy your sweet little man!

Maggie Kolb

I can't carry my 10 and 14 year old any more, but I will take the public hugs while I get them!

nonmember avatar Donna

Madeline, we get it, you don't like Mary. Just so you know, all your snotty comments don't flatter you at all. By clicking on and commenting on Mary's posts(even if the comments are continually crass) help her keep her job.

LuvDx LuvDx

Aw, my baby (almost 8) likes to be carried, but her mothers a wimp so it had to come to an end for the most part haha.

MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

I agree with Madeline. This woman is always writing about how she has to escape her kid ( even though she only has 1 school aged child. How taxing it is to raise 1 school aged child? I have 4 kids, and never feel the need to escape them). Now she wants to make it look like she actually gives a crap about her kid. Yeah, nice try. We all still know you're a piss poor mother.

nonmember avatar Madeline

You're right Donna. My comments have been immature, snobish and very unflattering. A few months ago I found out a picture of a frind from Halloween posted by Mary on her "Worst Homemade Halloween costumes". She has tried to get the picture taken off the site and nothing has been done. I took the low road by basically "trolling" the comment section of Mrs. Ficsher's posts.

Jenny... JennyMomof3gord

I think you're a good Mom. They will only let you cuddle & hold them for so long. Do it until he doesn't want to anymore! Go you & screw all the negative comments!

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