12 Times Grandparents Should Mind Their Own Business

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not listeningIn news that ranks right up there with the sky is blue, a new survey of grandparents has revealed that most grandmothers are pretty p'o'd that moms are seeking parenting advice in books and on the web. You have to wonder why they even asked. Of course grannies don't want moms going online to get their parenting advice!

Don't you know grandparents have the corner on the parenting market? If I've heard it once, I've heard it a thousand times. Parents love their kids' grandparents to bits, but if there's one thing they really wish the older generation would do, it's butt out on how to parent their kids!

Think you're alone? Get a load of what the parents we surveyed said drives them nuts ... and what grandparent advice they're ignoring!

1. Education -- My kids' grandparent thinks pre-school at age 3 is ridiculous.

2. Discipline -- My parents spanked me, but my husband and I don't believe in corporal punishment. I caught my mom spanking my child, and when I told her that was unacceptable, she acted like I was criticizing how SHE parented. I wasn't. I just have chosen to do things differently, and I want her to respect that.

3. Pacifiers -- Between grandparents who think their grandchild is too old for the binky to grands who keep pushing the pacifier even though parents have taken it away, I could fill this post with sob stories about soothers.

4. Dating -- My daughter's boyfriends are none of my parents' business!

5. Playmates -- My kids have a grandparent who thinks play groups with other children outside the family take away from time with their cousins. But those cousins are way behind my kids; I'd like for them to interact with other kids!

6. The Other Grandparents -- Enough with the guilt trips about who sees the kids more.

7. Potty Training -- I believe he will when he's ready and they really make him feel bad when he doesn't.

8. Medication -- My parents rushed me to the doctor for every scratch when I was a kid. I've read up on the antibiotic-resistant [diseases] out there, and I don't like to give medicine unless it's absolutely necessary. My parents make me feel like a bad mom for doing something my pediatrician agrees with!

9. Speech -- My daughter's grandmother doesn't think pronunciation or grammar are important, but we're really trying to teach her to speak correctly. No baby talk, please!

10. Friends -- My parents disapprove of my daughter's best friend, but they've spent pretty much no time with the kid. The girl is at my house all the time; I think I'd know if she was a problem.

11. Kindness -- My mother says I'm a pushover because I believe in talking things out with my kids. She was a "my way or the highway" kind of mom ... and she wonders why we're not close today? I don't want that relationship with my kids when they're my age.

12. Activities -- My son doesn't WANT to play baseball, OK, Dad? He likes LEGO club, and I'd rather pay for him to do something he enjoys.

Are your parents too heavy handed with the parenting advice? What do you tell them to butt out about?

 

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B1Bomber B1Bomber

My parents and my in-laws are awesome. A little overcautious when they are around in person, maybe, but that's fine :)


Definitely no meddling or criticizing going on. Hubby and I are both close with both sets of parents.

jalaz77 jalaz77

#6 has my MIL written all over it. She is pathetic when in comes to that. "I never see the kids" in her annoying monotone voice. Thank god my hubby has balls, he said, "you know where we live and you have our phone number".

nonmember avatar kristi

I would just like them to treat all of their grandkids equally. None of this BS that since my husband and I have provided my kids with xyz then they have to buy it for SIL's kids since she is now divorced and unemployed. The poor dears are entitled to everything my kids have, you know, because their parents are divorced.

nonmember avatar Jenny

Oh, I could go on for days...but the best one was when my monster-in-law suggested I salt my son's baby food when he rejected peas the first time he tried them. I looked at her like she was crazy and she said, "Well, I ALWAYS salted my kids' baby food." I replied with, "Or maybe he just doesn't like peas." And 7 years later--he STILL doesn't like them! :)

mamav... mamavaness

lol I guess I'm lucky I don't have any annoying in-laws. My parents are actually the annoying ones, well just my mom she guilt trips me about my dad seeing my daughter more. He does see her more but that's because he always invites me over, she does not.

nonmember avatar MammaMel

Custody. Grandparents should keep their noses out of custody.

nonmember avatar Cass

For your claims to be informed, you seem to have made a whopping mistake by referring to "some" viruses as antibiotic resistant. Antibiotics, by definition, do not harm viruses. They usually target a protein the bacterial cell wall that viruses don't have.

nonmember avatar nurse

Antibiotics are only for bacterial infections which are not anything like viral. Cell wall or not. So Cass, if you want to comment stay informed yourself. Also the answers are from readers not the writer. Now who's the dumb a$$?

nonmember avatar nurse

Antibiotics are only for bacterial infections which are not anything like viral. Cell wall or not. So Cass, if you want to comment stay informed yourself. Also the answers are from readers not the writer. Now who's the dumby?

s_ran... s_ranker116

My mom is dead set on my oldest son playing some kind of sport, but he's not an athletic kid. He's more like me and if he wants to spend his time reading instead of playing football that's just fine with me.

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