11-Year-Old Ends Up in ER After Being Spanked in School

Rant 178

paddleBy now the mommy wars have pretty much gotten us nowhere except to the realization that some parents spank their kids and some parents do not spank their kids. But now I'm going to throw a little monkey wrench in there: how about the parents who let other people spank their kids? Say the parents who let people at their kids' school spank their kids?

Is that OK? Are you sure? Because the mother of an 11-year-old girl who was spanked at school ended up filing a police report and taking the child to the hospital after she got the paddling of her life.

Kind of makes you wonder why anyone would say "yes" to letting someone else spank your kid, doesn't it? Even a school?

Oh I know, I know, there is a difference between child abuse and a corrective swat on the tush. That's what they all say. That's what Tekicia Yancie probably thought when daughter Jordyn's school called and told her Jordyn could opt for some old-fashioned butt smacking or a three-day suspension.

Yancie decided she didn't want her kid out of class for that long, so she went with the in-school spanking. And then her kid ended up missing school for days on end anyway because her injuries were so severe. As the little girl said:

When I got paddled, it felt like he was hitting me with something else because it really hurt. I told him that he was hitting me hard. And, when I got finished being paddled, I ran in the corner and started crying.

I hate to say I told you so, but ... wait, no, I don't. I feel badly that a little girl was hurt, but something has to wake parents up here. It's time we face the reality of corporal punishment in America: there is no perfect way to hit kids.

Think about it: if people who are trained to work with kids don't know where the line is between the aforementioned corrective swat on the tush and child abuse, who does? Is there really anyone we can trust using corporal punishment on our kids?

I know parents who wouldn't dream of laying a hand on their own kids who still seem to cling to the idea that schools should keep corporal punishment as a discipline technique. Maybe it's because they don't like getting their hands dirty; perhaps it's because they see school administrators as "experts" in child development.

Regardless, it's time it stops. Schools aren't any better than parents at spanking kids. The minute you decide to raise a hand to a child, no matter your "expertise," you are running the same risks as anyone else of hurting a child physically and emotionally.

And while the black and blue marks on little Jordyn Booth's behind will heal, the memory of crying in a corner after being paddled by someone she trusted will never completely go away.

Would you let someone at your kid's school spank them?

 

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behavior, discipline, elementary school

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peanu... peanutsmommy1

hell no, nobody lays a hand on my child. I am apalled that there are states where this is even an option!

Irela... Ireland69

mother gave consent! sorry!

LostS... LostSoul88

I would be taking a metal bat to who ever hit my child. NO ONE but me spanks my child  (or her dad of coarse). How can a school say "well we either suspend ehr or beat her take your pick" 

LostS... LostSoul88

Ireland. Again there is a difference between abuse and spanking,. If the school hit her so hard she had to go to the hospital that is ABUSE not punishment. The mom didn't give them permission to beat her  child. 

Rootbear Rootbear

She opted for a spanking but thought it wouldn't hurt? Whats the point?

Vegeta Vegeta

A school in Texas has that option and the kid got to decide (previous article). I seriously doubt a paddle to the butt warented a ER trip and 'out of school for days on end'. I've had major surgeries on Saturdays and been at school on Monday. I had 2 surgeries last week and I was back at my 2 physical jobs a day later. Sorry but mom gave concent. And the kid did something to warrant a 3 day suspension or a spanking.

Death... Deathlilly

She said yes to spanking, not abuse. And I doubt she agreed to them using an object to spank or for a grown male to do it (I would think in these cases they require same-gender authority).

jalaz77 jalaz77

Hell no!!! I kind of wonder if this mom planned that. Kind if odd that she says yup then cries about it later. Who spanks a kid that hard anyways? A very angry person?? 3 day suspension would of been my choice so she can really see what a punishment is like, not spaking or physical stuff but at 11 she knows better so no friends, phone, TV, games, iPods...homework, reading, housework and school would be what she got for her 3 day Vaca.

nonmember avatar kaerae

Hitting is hitting. A "pop" or a "spank" is still a hit. If you're too stupid to outsmart a child to get the behavior you want, don't have a kid.

Julie Ann Worley

19 U.S. states today legally allow educators to beat children K-12 with wooden boards in public schools, known as corporal punishment with no safety standards and no legal remedy when children are injured from excessive force. AL, FL and TN are among school paddling states that Do Not Require Parental Consent or Knowledge/Notification for children to be hit in school. Search "A Violent Education" 2008 Study by Human Rights Watch and ACLU for disturbing facts. See brutally violent injuries to children from U.S. Public School Corporal Punishment at YouTube video trailer for Documentary Movie "The Board of Education" by Jared Abrams.

April in "National Child Abuse and Prevention Month" as well as "National Autism Awareness Month" yet school corporal pain punishment is discriminatorily administered to boys, disabled, even autistic students, low-income and minority students.

As of April 2013 there has been No Re-Introduction of proposed Federal Bill H.R. 3027 "The Ending Corporal Punishment in Schools Act" Cost $0, due to lack of Federal Lawmaker Sponsors, yet Federal Law Prohibits Corporal Punishment in ALL U.S. Prisons! don't hit students dot com.

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