5 Reasons It's Okay to Swear in Front of Your Kids

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handovermouthTeaching your kids not to curse is just one of those things good parents are expected to do. Like teaching them not to punch other kids on the playground or steal a pack of gum from the store or lie about whether or not they did their homework. Naturally, teaching your kids not to curse includes not cursing in front of your kids. What with the example-setting and all. Except, here's the thing: Punching and stealing and lying are behaviors we consider "wrong" for valid reasons, most of them involving someone getting hurt on some level or another (sometimes, themselves). Why is swearing "wrong," exactly? Because it's "not nice," some would say. Or "because I said so" or "because some people might get offended." None of these reasons carry any real weight, in my opinion, and I personally refuse to waste time and effort instilling values in my kids that I don't even believe in.

So yes, I swear in front of my kids. And here are the reasons why.

1. Studies show that swearing in the workplace "helps enhance group solidarity and serves as a mechanism for stress relief." Why shouldn't the same logic apply to swearing at home?

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parents swear in front of kids2. Another recent study found that "saying the F word or any other commonly used expletive can work to reduce physical pain." Hey, maybe you can finally stop buying ibuprofen in bulk!

3. It's been suggested (and debated endlessly) that people who swear are more honest and trustworthy.

4. Self-expression should always be encouraged, in all forms. Or, as George Carlin put it: "Why should I deprive myself of a small but important part of language that my fellow humans have developed? Why not use all of what we’ve developed to communicate with?"

5. Swearing around your kids actually helps to demonstrate rules of etiquette dictated by society, as in which behaviors are appropriate under which circumstances: "You can say these words at home, but if you say them at school, you'll get in big trouble and it won't be fun."

Oh, and here's an interesting little factoid you might be surprised to learn: My kids don't swear. Like, maybe once in a very blue moon, my son will curse at an ill-fitting Lego piece but that's about it. Weird, huh?

Do you swear in front of your kids?


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bills... billsfan1104

Fucking all the damn time

jalaz77 jalaz77

Haha Bills!!!! I do and am trying not to as much cause it may lose its strength. It's like a last resort thing. They know I mean business when I slip with a curse word...there are worse things in life! The whole pain thing may be true cause I said ssshhhhhhit a lot during my last labor. Haha.

LeeshaE LeeshaE

Everyday. And my son doesn't swear either except when he's with grandpa because then all mom's rules go out the window.

mamma... mammadeeder

I swear all the time in front of my children. I try to be conscious not to, but it always slips. My three year old has been known to say a swear word or two every now and then ( much to my dismay), but always uses it in the right context...

nonmember avatar MammaMel

Like a sailor! And my kid tells me it's not a nice word when we are in public :) and only cused ONCE when he was learning to speak.

Disso... Dissolutions

indeed i do. i never swear at my kid though, and she doesnt swear either. 


When I was little, I use to swear with my friends, my parents sent us out the room when they put on a Redd Foxx, Richard Pryor, etc album on...but my parents taught us not to swear in front of them or anyone else who were considered adults--amazingly enough my husband was raised the same way...so in turn, he and I passed this on to my kids...the rules were "Since I can't watch you 24/7, I do not accept you cursing around me as an underage person and before you let out cuss word, you better look around to make sure only children are within hearing distance, because if I get one complaint, I am whupping asses in front of everyone"  My son tried me, and sure enough, I whupped his lil' fanny outside in front of his peers (he had his jeans on). 

I hear my kids [21 years ol] can curse like no one's business...but it's funny how they NEVER curse around family members or respected adults.  I find that to be AWESOME!

kassy129 kassy129

I really enjoyed this article.  As a fellow swearer myself, my son knows not to say these words.  Although I think it's cute as hell when he talks about "kicking the bad guys' asses!"

Melis... Melissa1508

Okay, I'm so glad to see these comments.  Hahahaha  I feel better.  Yes, I swear (a little) around my child, but never at her.  She's five and she knows a few of those words...but she doesn't use them.  She knows they are "grown up" words and she isn't allowed to use them until she's 18.  haha 

MammaSam MammaSam

I cuss in front of my little girl, feel bad about it but when she gets me real mad "Gd damnit z" comes out of my mouth. Also when I'm around other adults its harder bc they're cursing too and it just feels natural. Comes out whether I want it to or not. She says naughty words once in a while, but she's pretty good about controlling when she says them. Like she dropped something and said god damnit! Sheesh.. its a part of life though. Shell here it from somewhere eventually. I just tell her they are bad words and mommy is naughty for using them so she shouldn't.

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