School Forces Transgendered 6-Year-Old to Use the Boy's Bathroom

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A first-grader in Colorado was recently banned from using the girls’ restroom. Coy Mathis is a Girl Scout that loves pink and looks adorable with barrettes in her hair -- but she was born a boy. For that, her Fountain, Colorado school said that she would not be allowed to use the same facilities as her female classmates.

Coy’s parents have filed an official discrimination complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division, and are speaking out publicly to defend their child. Mom Kathryn said, “The more you talk about something, the more awareness and acceptance there is ... we’re really just trying to make it known what the school has done and make them accountable.”

Here’s a question for the school officials that made this decision: What kind of public school did they grow up in where kids get naked in front of each other during bathroom breaks? The district claims that it barred Coy from the girls’ room because of how it would affect other students “and the future impact a boy with male genitals using a girls’ bathroom would have as Coy grew older.”

As far as I’m concerned, I think it would be more unsettling to the other children to see a girl -- for all intents and purposes -- using the boys’ bathroom. The school seemed to recognize this, and told Coy’s parents that she could use the restroom in the nurse’s office or the one reserved for teachers. Yeah, no potential for disaster there.

The family has since decided to homeschool Coy and plans to sue the school, which, as it turns out, is violating state law. The Colorado Anti-Discrimination Act “prohibits discrimination against transgender students in public schools.”

We could debate all day long on whether we should let 6-year-olds decide if they’re the wrong gender, but this family has made a parenting choice -- one that they say works for them. Coy was apparently miserable as a boy and wanted to know when his parents could take him to the doctor to “fix” him to be a girl. They met with a psychologist and made the decision to let Coy transition into girlhood.

Maybe it’s a phase, maybe it’s not, but her mom says that her depression and anxiety melted away. They’ve never had problems with any of her friends’ parents, and until this particular issue, it seems she was thriving.

If she looks like a girl, acts like a girl, and lives as a girl, Coy should be allowed to use the girls’ room at her public school. Any parents that are uncomfortable with that should consider other educational options.

Do you think the school made the right decision, or are they out of line?


Image via Carey Tilden/Flickr

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butte... buttercup627

They aren't forcing him to use the boys bathroom they said he's allowed to use the single bathroom for teachers instead of the girl's bathroom

Jespren Jespren

Coy is a boy dressing up like a girl. Let's ignore for a moment the whole PC lgbqrstetc agenda: from a legal perspective the law follows the physical body. If Coy (as he was today) signed up for a driver's license today *he* would be designated as a *he*. The same school where a 6 year old attends also probably has 12 year olds, and possibly even 14 year olds (depending upon the grades). And 'restroom' means 'locker room' too, even in elementary school kids often change closes for gym. Sometimes they shower. Sometimes bathrooms aren't very private. My elementary school bathrooms had half-walls and kids would talk over them all the time. It is not appropriate to allow boys in the girl's private area, or visa versa. As long as Coy has a penis he will be a he and should stay in the appropriate dressing room/restroom.

kat2825 kat2825

when did she or he start dressing as a girl???  At 6 yrs old did she go to her parents and say of I am a girl now...

Pinkmani Pinkmani

He should be using the boys bathroom, because he is a boy. If he has a gender-reassignment surgery, and then legally changes his gender, then he can be considered a girl.

nonmember avatar krelia

I'm tired of this crap that we always say a kid is to young to make intelligent decisions on things, but the minute they want to play dress up we say they are 100% right and encourage it.

Alaina Quist

you people are all fucked and must be tea partiers 

nonmember avatar Samantha

Well one thing is that the kid is more likely to get his/her ass kicked in a boys locker room. Poor kid deserves people to worry about his SAFETY and happiness rather than how uncomfortable it would be to others. And he/she doesnt have to get completely naked in a locker room anyways. I know i never did, and im just plain a girl. Whats he going to do? Rape a girl in the locker room? People are so closed minded and weird. Poor kid.

dekumama dekumama

I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I can understand how the mom feels, she just wants her kid to feel like a normal girl...but, "she" does have a penis. I would not feel comfortable with my daughters sharing a bathroom with boys. At his age, I guess the worst that is likely to happen would be some questions and curiosity, but what about when "she" hits puberty? I would not stand for an already sexually confused hormone filled near-man in the same bathroom with little girls. I think the schools solution was the best possible. Just because "she" is special doesn't make other children and parent' discomfort less important than their own.

nonmember avatar Dawn

Right Alaina, everyone who disagrees with the school are tea partiers. Get a grip. Parents are forced to confront hard issues all the time. Not everyone is going to agree. You are really offensive.

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