Michelle Williams Struggles to Balance Love, Work & Being a Mom

Michelle WilliamsIt's been quite the month for actress Michelle Williams. She's about to hit theaters in her biggest movie role yet -- leading the cast of Oz the Great and Powerful -- and all anyone wants to talk about is her relationship with boyfriend (or ex-boyfriend?) Jason Segel. Is it any wonder the actress and mom to 7-year-old Matilda struggles to find balance in her life?

When The Stir sat down with Williams at the Langham Hotel in Pasadena, California (home of Bachelorette Ashley Hebert's wedding to J.P. Rosenbaum!) to talk about her role as Glinda the good witch in Oz, the talented Oscar nominee admitted she doesn't have it all figured out just yet -- work or motherhood.

And yet, listening to her, it's clear Williams is selling herself short as a mom. Just wait 'til you hear her epiphany on washing dishes!

On being a new idol for little girls as Glinda the Good:

I was thinking about delighting one young child, and I didn’t realize there would be more than one.  And that’s ... really, what feels better in this whole world than making a kid smile? 

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On balancing work and motherhood:

It’s like an Olympian undertaking! Okay, what have I figured out? What have I really learned?

It’s not possible to do both things well at the same time, especially not if you are exacting, and maybe a Virgo, and you know, really critical, and ask a lot of yourself. But I think every mother that I know asks a lot of themselves.

What I’m trying to wrap my head around is ... get comfortable with the moments, to get comfortable with the fact that it’s gonna feel like a scale, and I’m never gonna arrive at a perfect balance, and it’s always gonna be a give and take.

Oz the Great and PowerfulOn being OK with not being perfect:

Something’s always gonna feel like it’s suffering, like it’s underserved. And that’s really hard on your heart to feel like you’re not being the best parent that you could be, or you’re not being the best at your job that you could be, but that’s what I’m really trying to get peaceful with: the fact that I’m always going to feel like that and that is the equation for as long as I choose to or have to stay in this position where I work and where I parent.

On finding time for yourself:

This is a big epiphany for me recently. I was like, I am not gonna wash my dishes before I put them in the dishwasher. I find it so hard to make some time for myself. I am not gonna spend 15 minutes pre-washing!

Why would I do that? I’m looking for time everywhere, in every corner, every day, and here I am, pre-washing my dishes! Not anymore! Silverware, going in there. Knives, going in there.

Wood is not going in there, but, so, yeah, so that’s ... I try and buy back time where I can ... try and figure out how to buy time!

On why a world-famous actress reads mom blogs:

I never really posted anything on a blog because I don’t really know how to, but I think every mother has the same question that we were all asking. Like, how do you do it? How do you be a mom, and be a parent, and maybe even try and be in a relationship, and the end, also be ... be yourself. How do you make all of that work? Providing this kind of conversation about it and this kind of access to it is awesome. So thank you guys for doing it.   

Where you do find time in our day to be YOU, not just a mom?

 

Images via Jeanne Sager; Disney

 

Disclaimer: Disney covered my expenses to attend a press screening of Oz the Great and Powerful. I was not otherwise compensated and all opinions are my own.

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nonmember avatar HS

I'm a single mom to one with a healthy partnership with my son's dad. I work full time during the week but am fortunate to get a break from being mom and employee on the weekends. Having a couple of days to completely disconnect helps maintain my sanity :)

nonmember avatar B Jane

When your child is grown you'll be glad you spent time with him or her instead of with your hands in the sink. So there's a little smudge on the silverware, isn't there another one in the drawer you can use? During those moments you don't always see that logic, but try to get some perspective on your life so you'll enjoy your child's growing up. You don't get a chance to do it over again.

older... oldermomat41

Agree with you B Jane. I had kids later in life and was very used to having everything in order, all the time. It took me along time to just deal with the fact that the entire house was never going to be clean all at the same time again. The floors may have been done, but the bathrooms need work, etc. I finally got over it and while most people think my house is pretty clean, I feel like I am living in squalor...LOL but hey, the kids won't remember or care how clean the floors were but they will remember the time I spent with them. 

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