Mom Confession: I Co-Sleep With My 7-Year-Old Son

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little boyMy son will be 7 years old a week from tomorrow, and even though he's a big boy now -- he still sleeps in bed with me and my husband every night. Yes, I said I'm co-sleeping with my almost-7-year-old.

(Go ahead and gasp and freak out a little bit if you want to. I understand.)

Let me make one thing very clear: co-sleeping was something I always frowned upon and never in a million years thought I'd wind up doing -- up until a year or two ago. 

Letting my son sleep in the big bed with me started out as something we did occasionally when my husband was out of town on business. It was fun for my little guy, kind of like a sleepover party. But then we entered a stretch of time where my husband was traveling five days a week for months -- so little dude wound up sleeping in the master bedroom every night.

And somewhere along the way, it became a habit -- one that we've never bothered to break.

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Granted, he goes to sleep in his own room every single night. But at some point, he wanders down the hall to our room and winds up with us. And you know what? We love it. And we don't plan on kicking him out of our crib any time soon.

Actually, it's gotten to the point where I really don't even sleep well until he crawls into bed with us. I toss and turn and wake up over and over again until I know he's safe and sound, in between the two of us in our king-sized bed.

And I know that he's way too old to be sleeping anywhere other than his own bedroom, but I'm still just not ready to break him yet.

Here's the thing -- our son is our only child and will remain our only child because we're on the "one and done" plan. And that's why both of us really want to savor every ounce of the "little kid" phase we have left, because it's slowly slipping away before our eyes.

Before we know it, he'll be locking us out of his room instead of coming into ours at night, so we figure we might as well enjoy the cuddles while we still can.

And if we get to next year and he's still sleeping in our bed before his eighth birthday? So be it. There are worse things in life than having your child want to be close to you.

Do your kids ever sleep in your bed?

 

Image via Mary Fischer

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nonmember avatar melmcl

Cherish it because soon he will stop. Our boy went to sleep very well in his own bed but then about 2 or 3 am he'd get in bed with us from age 5 on. I stopped fully waking up and asked him how he gets into bed. He said I just give you a little push mom and you move right over! When he turned 10, his bedroom became more his own space - and it definitely wasn't cool to sleep with mom & dad anymore. The total end of co-sleeping was sad for us as parents, but great for him as he was ready to be on his own all night!

bleed... bleedingheart8D

My nearly 5 year old sleeps  in the bed with me. Her father passed away last year and I think it gives usgreat comfort. My 11 year old slept in the same for the first 3 months after my husband passed and none of us had a problem with it. Sometimes my daughter sleeps in her brother's bed. Right now it works for us. 

Rootbear Rootbear

My boyfriend's kid HAS to sleep with an adult every night. Her mother encourages it, while he tries to get her to sleep in her own bed. It's a nightmare. She has become so dependent on grown ups to do everything for her because her mother caters and coddles and spoils her rotten. I never co-slept with my parents when I was little. My parents told me straight up that children do not sleep with their parents, and I turned out fine. My kids wont be sharing my bed either. I like my space.

nonmember avatar Kdelano

I'm 23 years old and I'll still sleep in bed with my mom or sister! Lol I moved to south korea last year and when I went home to visit this past july, most nights all three of us would fall asleep together. We would all pile into a bed to watch a movie or something and just pass out. its always been just the three of us so its never seemed like a big deal.

bandg... bandgeek521

My five year old ends up in the bed with me a lot because DH works third shift. I think it's just comforting to both of us, because we both feel his absence at night so intensely. I'm sure that before he starts school this fall the habit will be one we get out of, but I'm enjoying letting him be "little" while I still can, before school starts for him and he has to start adding responsibilities to his life and growing up. :)

nonmember avatar Tonya

The only time I see this as an issue is when one parent is opposed and then it can cause marital issues. I have a huge extended family and we all coslept with our parents (who had themselves coslept) or siblings. We have all gone on to cosleep or our kids sleep together. Three generations and running, and we are all normal, happy people. Too much thought is put into this issue. Sleep together, don't. Whatever works for your family.

Caera Caera

Congratulations, Mary Fischer, you're raising a wuss.

nonmember avatar Printit

I would assume that since you're writing about this subject, you're open to comments. Have you put any thought into how he will feel about it when he's in his 20's or older? He will be a man and I can tell you if the subject ever comes up with a potential girlfriend, they will RUN very quickly for the hills. He will not say to you, "Mom, thanks so much for allowing me to sleep in your bed until I was 8". Will not happen. Guarantee. This is just one issue. Most children suffer from a mother's worry. It's a bad energy and you mention you're tossing and turning until you know he's safe between you and your husband? His own bed and bedroom is not safe? This will not serve your child well. Other than that, what about intimacy with your husband? Spontaneity must be out the window for you two. That's just sad. It's just wrong in so many ways. Poor kid.

Marcella Shambles

I just wish we had a king size bed - it's too crowded when our 9 yr old tries to sleep with us now. But I still love the fact she wants to snuggle up with us and read a book or talk or whatever if the mood strikes her. She knows she's always welcome if she's scared or something, but she also knows 3 out of 4 times she'll end up in her own bed at some point.  To each their own with the co sleeping thing.

Kristin Otteson Valentine

My youngest son slept with us until he was 10. i loved it he would cuddle up next to me and fall asleep. At 10 he decided it was time to sleep in his won bed and he has ever since. He is now 14 and a wonder, bright young man. Children are only young for a short period of time, I say enjoy the snuggling and the closeness for as long as they allow.

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